Your Survival Instinct Is Killing You

Your Survival Instinct Is Killing You : Retrain Your Brain to Conquer Fear and Build Resilience

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Stop running. Nothing is chasing you. Thanks to technology, today's world is more comfortable than ever, but our survival instinct that evolved to protect us from danger is on high alert. Though mild discomforts such as work demands, traffic jams, family conflict, or having to perform under pressure are not life threatening, they can still trigger the brain's fight or flight fear reaction. And this response can lead to a reliance on drugs, alcohol, overeating, insomnia, phobias, chronic pain, illness, or just losing our temper for no apparent reason. In this eye-opening book, psychologist Dr. Marc Schoen offers practical strategies to tame your overly reactive survival instinct and conquer fear, build resilience, boost decision-making, and improve every aspect of your life.
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Product details

  • Paperback | 259 pages
  • 132 x 201 x 18mm | 204g
  • New York, NY
  • English
  • Reissue
  • 0142180742
  • 9780142180747
  • 285,590

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Recommended for best in self-help reading by "Compelling. Readers with an interest in the mind-body connection will find this guide to better health compelling. Schoen does an excellent job in explaining the complicated science behind them."--USA Today

"[Reprogram] the brain to no longer equate discomfort with imminent danger, and achieve a state of ease despite life's inevitable hardships."--Wall Street Journal "Schoen provides exercises and techniques to tame the anxiety monster and the mayhem it causes. Relief is in sight."--Success Magazine "A useful new book. So many solopreneurs are held back by often-irrational fears -- if this is true for you then this book is for you."--Forbes "What you'll learn: You have the power to change areas of your life that you may previously have thought were impossible to control, whether it's how you age, how you deal with stressful situations or that "need" for a third helping of ice cream before bed. A book that can enhance every aspect of your life, from your mind to your body to your spirit." "Discomfort training (which helps people conquer their fear and make better decisions) would unquestionably lead to substantial improvements in worker productivity, performance and health. Train your brain to lift decision making."--Investor's Business Daily "Amazing. I love this book."--Patricia Fitzgerald, Huffington Post "This book can improve your outlook on life"--Scientific American "[This book is] short on theory and long on practical tips you can actually use. One let me reduce my heart rate by 6 to 8 bpm in less than a minute. Take that, Zen masters! Need to better manage discomfort and stress so you can perform better? (Wait--why am I asking? Who doesn't?) This is your book."--INC Magazine "This book is outstanding . . . Dr. Schoen is unconventional, and so is this book. Ancient wisdom with new findings in brain research lead to a startling conclusion: What has allowed our species to survive is driving us crazy. There is something you can do about it--read this book, and follow its advice. Reading this book is like having a conversation with Dr. Schoen and that can change your life."--David Logan, Ph.D., New York Times #1 bestselling co-author of Tribal Leadership and The Three Laws of Performance; professor, USC (University of Southern California), Marshall School of Business "Dr. Marc Schoen knows what it takes to be resilient and healthy in these modern times. It is not, as some would have you believe, to replace feelings of pain and discomfort with feelings of safety and comfort, but rather to allow these seemingly incompatible feelings to sit side by side to inform and shape one another. Grounded in solid theory and evidence as well as engaging stories, including his own, this book is a must-read for anyone facing mysterious physical ailments."--Barbara Fredrickson, Ph.D., author of Positivity and Love 2.0 "I know so well how easy it is to fall into the trap of using food, addictions, or other forms of avoidance as protection from my fears of being uncomfortable. Reading Dr. Schoen's book was challenging. It felt so close to home--almost too close and personal in fact. Yet as I came to understand the message of this book, it became so much more obvious to me. This book is about the unavoidable--being uncomfortable. Dr. Schoen's book offers a gift: how to successfully manage your discomfort and fears, and equally as important, how to use the discomfort in your life as a vehicle for empowerment."--Carnie Wilson, celebrity, singer, TV host, and author of Gut Feelings, I'm Still Hungry and To Serve with Love "Dr. Schoen puts his attention to the discomfort, disappointment, worry, and impatience that influence the quality of our lives profoundly but about which science and medicine are so often silent. He does a brilliant job of connecting brain research and our everyday coping strategies. Readers will find new ways of understanding and mobilizing the mind-body connection for stress management."--Sara Latz, J.D., M.D., clinical professor of medicine, UCLA Semel Institute for Neuroscience and Human Behavior "The essence of success is age old . . . Work Hard, Work Smart, and Manage Your Fear. Dr. Schoen has unlocked the essence of fear and discomfort management. This is a must-read for any human that has ever started or thought of starting their own business. A fast-paced impact treatise for everyone who wants to win!"--Robin Richards, CEO of Vivendi Universal Net USA; founding president, COO, and director of, Inc.; chairman and CEO,; recipient of Inc. Magazine's 2007 Entrepreneur of the Year Award "Dr. Schoen, an experienced hypnotherapist, has written an informative book to counter stress and heal your body. He teaches you to develop positive habits and lead a more powerful, productive life."--Judith Orloff, M.D., bestselling author of Emotional Freedom, Second Sight, and Positive Energy; assistant clinical professor, UCLA Geffen School of Medicine
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About Marc Schoen

Marc Schoen, PhD, is an assistant clinical professor of medicine at UCLA Geffen School of Medicine. He lives in Los Angeles.

Kristen Loberg is a New York Times bestselling collaborator. A graduate of Cornell University, she lives in Los Angeles.
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347 ratings
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4 36% (125)
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2 7% (25)
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