Why Men Lie and Women Cry : How to Get What You Want Out of Life by Asking
Allan and Barbara Pease are the world's foremost experts in personal relationships. Their books, seminars and TV programmes have made them household names from Australia to the UK and from the USA to Japan. In their follow-up to the multi-million selling WHY MEN DON'T LISTEN AND WOMEN CAN'T READ MAPS, Allan and Barbara use the same combination of startling observation of people's actions towards one another, humour and practical advice to teach the reader more about what men and women want from relationships, and how to get it.
- Paperback | 336 pages
- 128 x 194 x 26mm | 322.06g
- 02 Oct 2003
- Orion Publishing Co
- Orion mass market paperback
- London, United Kingdom
- New edition
- New edition
- 25 Line Drawing(s)
This is another success from the team that produced the wildly popular Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps. Allan and Barbara Pease now attempt to answer 40 of the most frequently asked questions on the war of the sexes. Basing their answers on a mixture of surveys, academic studies and common sense, they claim there are evolutionary explanations for most of the things that drive us mad about our partners. Things men do that drive women insane include the fuss they make about going shopping and the way they keep flicking through the TV channels. Why do they have such disgusting habits and why is it that they know so little about their close friends' lives? How can they spend a whole day with a mate and be unable to answer a single question about him? The authors explain that men rarely discuss people and their emotions; instead they trade information about 'things'. There is a hugely funny story about husband Josh spending the day with old schoolfriend Robert that is guaranteed to have female readers in hysterics. The authors back up their analyses with neurological research. Figures show different areas of the brain are activated in males and females when dealing with the same stimuli. Men's brains are compartmentalised and have up to 30% fewer connections between hemispheres than women's brains. The cord connecting the left and right brain hemispheres is also 10% thinner and carries 30% fewer connections between left and right. The net result is that women can do six or seven things at once and carry on a conversation with several different sub-sets of information while men have a concentrated 'one thing at a time' approach. Readers are encouraged to take two tests: the Secret Point Scoring Test and the Sex Appeal Test. The latter is based on the results of 23 major studies and experiments showing what men and women find attractive about each other's bodies - although the women's results were rather humorously blown by one Scottish study. This discovered that the kind of male face a woman found attractive depended on her cycle. If she was ovulating she preferred to see a picture of a man with rugged masculine features, if she was menstruating she was more likely to be attracted to a man with scissors shoved in his head. The 13 chapters are packed with everything from advice on dealing with nagging and emotional blackmail to enlightenment about the amazingly different behaviour of women in ladies' loos and men in the gents' loos. The effort to relate all behaviour to its biological underpinnings, neglecting culture and sociological conditioning, may make for a rather lopsided analysis but it does uncover some inescapable truths that are bound to elicit squeals or groans of recognition. The presentation is light and easily digestible. This is a book destined to make an ideal Christmas or birthday present and will surely find its way onto numerous 'must have' holiday reading lists. (Kirkus UK)
Review in 'Summer Reading' of GOOD BOOK GUIDE (July 2003) Q&A in 'Couples Counsel' of FAMILY CIRCLE (January 2004) Interview in THE WEEKLY NEWS (24 January 2004) Review in THE SUNDAY GLEANER (25 January 2004) Feature in DAILY MIRROR 13 May 2004 PRESS ASSOCIATION ran the Jonny Wilkinson story on 5 December. TALKSPORT also ran the story on their 1pm news bulletin. SUNDAY EXPRESS 14 Dec interview with Allan and Barbara and photograph under heading 'How To Stop Christmas Ruining Your Relationship' COSMOPOLITAN (Dec) ran 2-page article The Suprising Man Secret You Need To Know featuring Allan Pease extensively throughout and with captioned quotes by Allan TAKE A BREAK (Nov) ran article on You Men Are Big Cry Babies featuring Allan Pease. The book was pictured at the end of the article with full details. ESSENTIALS (Dec) ran 3-page article by Allan and Barbara about gifts with details of the book. FAMILY CIRCLE (Dec) Barbara and Allan's regular column featured extract from the book with full details. TOP SANTE HEALTH AND BEAUTY (June 04) 'Can You Spot A Liar' article written by Allan and Barbara Reviews have run in BIRMINGHAM EVE MAIL & NORTHERN IRELAND NEWSLETTER featured the book in a pre-Christmas article 'Help Your Man Through The Retail Minefield'.
About Barbara Pease
Allan Pease is the world's foremost expert on body language and relationships. His acclaimed book Body Language has sold over 4 million copies, while his top rated TV series on the same subject has been seen by over 100 million people worldwide. He travels the world lecturing on human communication. Barbara Pease is CEO of Pease International, which produces videos, training courses and seminars for businesses and governments worldwide. She is co-author of the bestselling book Why Men Don't Listen and Women Can't Read Maps, which has sold ten million copies around the world.