Why Does He Do That?

Why Does He Do That? : Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

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This volume offers women guidelines on how to improve and survive an abusive relationship, discussing various types of abusive men, analysing societal myths surrounding abuse, and answering questions about the warning signs of abuse.show more

Product details

  • Paperback | 432 pages
  • 152 x 228 x 26mm | 399.99g
  • Penguin Putnam Inc
  • Berkley Publishing Corporation,U.S.
  • New York, United States
  • English
  • Reprint
  • 0425191656
  • 9780425191651
  • 4,724

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"[A] valuable resource...essential reading for those in the helping professions."show more

About Lundy Bancroft

Lundy Bancroft has spent the last fifteen years of his career specializing in domestic abuse and the behavior of abusive men and is considered one of the world s experts on the subject. He is the author of journal articles on abuse that have appeared in The New England Journal of Medicine and The Journal of Contemporary Psychology. The former codirector at Emerge, the nation s first program for abusive men, Bancroft now practices in Massachusetts while training various state and judicial agencies in dealing with domestic abuse situations."show more

Table of contents

Why Does He Do That? Acknowledgments Note on Terminology Introduction Part I: The Nature of Abusive Thinking 1. The Mystery 2. The Mythology 3. The Abusive Mentality 4. The Types of Abusive MenPart II: The Abusive Man in Relationships 5. How Abuse Begins 6. The Abusive Man in Everyday Life 7. Abusive Men and Sex 8. Abusive Men and Addiction 9. The Abusive Man and Breaking UpPart III: The Abusive Man in the World 10. Abusive Men as Parents 11. Abusive Men and Their Allies 12. The Abusive Man and the Legal SystemPart IV: Changing the Abusive Man 13. The Making of an Abusive Man 14. The Process of Change 15. Creating an Abuse-Free World Resources Indexshow more

Customer reviews

When I ordered this book I was so confused about my husbands behaviour and didn't know whether I would call what he does abusive, he doesn't hit me, but I feel just as hurt by his other behaviours if not more. I finished the book in a weekend while I stayed at my parents. The peace I feel in having his behaviours confirmed as wrong, learning I am not to blame for his behaviour, and having those tatics explained in details is worth more than I paid for this book. As Lundy says, you need to see through the smoke screen and mirrors to be able to see any change. I would suggest you read this book if you are confused about what abuse is. It would also be helpful for those who know someone in an abusive relationship as you would learn how she/he is feeling/thinking, or if you suspect that you might be entering an abusive relationship as it talks about warning signs. It is almost a bible for women who are in such a relationship and I could not be more grateful for making this purchase.show more
by Laura Bennett