What's Stopping You? Being More Confident

What's Stopping You? Being More Confident : Why Smart People Can Lack Confidence and What You Can Do About It

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A prescriptive, commonsense approach to self-confidence and success
With his bestselling book, What's Stopping You, Robert Kelsey helped thousands of people conquer their fear of failure and unlock their full potential in life. Now Robert is applying his unique approach to the subject of confidence. According to Robert, it's not something that can simply be injected into us through motivational exercises and positive thinking. What's Stopping You...Being More Confident? highlights the key reasons why you might be lacking confidence in the first place, what causes self-doubt or makes you feel less able than others. Then we are shown how to turn this around, by examining the traits that make someone confident.




Follow-up to the ground-breaking bestseller, What's Stopping You?, with the same intelligent approach to self-help
A road map to help us break down the barriers that make us shy away from achieving our full potential
How to recognize what you're good at, but also what you're not good at
Includes tactics for maintaining self-assurance and learning how to apply these in real-life practical situations
Based on extensive research and personal experience


"Everyone has moments of doubt - this practical and persoanl book can help remove those demons and boost morale. I recommend it strongly"
Luke Johnson, RSA Chairman, Financial Times columnist and author of Start It Up!


"This combination of searing honesty and genuine curiosity about how our lives are shaped makes for compelling reading"
Fi Glover, multi-award winning braodcast journalist and BBC radio presenter


"An invaluable resource for anyone lacking confidence"
John Caunt, author of Boost Your Self-Esteem
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Product details

  • Paperback | 256 pages
  • 136 x 215 x 14mm | 314g
  • Capstone Publishing Ltd
  • Oxford, United Kingdom
  • English
  • 1. Auflage
  • 0857083090
  • 9780857083098
  • 347,625

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Do you lack confidence or self belief?



Join the club. Millions of otherwise smart people lack the confidence to achieve their full potential - at work, in their careers and even in their personal pursuits. Yet confidence isn't something that can be conjured from motivational exercises or via quick-fix techniques.



Confidence is something you must build for yourself. It takes planning and action, deciding where you want to gain confidence and how it must be won. It will require courage, optimism and resilience.



In this follow-up to his international bestseller What's Stopping You? Robert Kelsey offers a deep understanding of confidence, suing extensive research analysis, as well his own experiences, to help you to:

Identify the truth about confidence - its root causes, as well as the damaging self beliefs that generate poor confidence Accept who you are, while planning your path towards confidence through achievement Understanding the myths around confidence, such as the need to be outgoing or to have talent Overcome the most common barrier to strong confidence: other people Deal with other barriers to confidence such as shyness, anxiety, stress, prefudice and even hubris
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Table of contents

Introduction 1


Part One - Explaining Poor Confidence 7


1 Scripts 9


2 Mindset 22


3 Reactions 34


4 The Journey 45


Part Two - The Alchemy of Confidence 57


5 Optimism and Resilience 59


6 Self-Efficacy and Talent 69


7 Courage and Extraversion 78


8 Trust and Judgement 87


Part Three - Achievement 97


9 Identity 99


10 Goals 110


11 The Plan 120


Part Four - Situations 133


12 Shyness 135


13 Developing Confidence at Work 147


14 Working with Others 157


15 Dating 170


Part Five - Barriers 179


16 Prejudice 181


17 Procrastination 188


18 Depression 194


19 Stress and Anxiety 202


20 Hubris 210


The Route to Confidence - in Seven Stages 221


What the Psychologists Say 224


Bibliography 233


About Robert Kelsey 237


Index 239
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Review Text

'Kelsey has produced a thoughtful and easily accessible book. While it will be of interest to a broad audience, its focus on preventing hubris and achieving potential should resonate with managers' (Irish Times, 21st January 2013)
'..an excellent book to study, to make your companion and to help you discover what's holding you back and what you could do to improve your situation.' (parentswithouttears.com, January 2013)
'...another helpful practical guide for those clear minds who already know what's missing-confidence...all the good decisions and ideas must have a strong base to carry them out; that's what confidence and this book can bring.' (Start Your Business, January 2013)
'...admirably broad minded, covering everything from depression to procrastination and calling in almost every philosopher on the market for nuggets of wisdom.' (People Management, February 2013)
'...practical, helpful advice' (The Sun, 8th February 2013)
'All good decisions and ideas must have a strong base to carry them out, that's what confidence and this book can bring.' (Start Your Business, February 2013)
'The book has range, depth, integrity and whilst it doesn't threaten you with quizzes or exercises, the congruence of all theories he draws on and the consistency of the message make it worthy of your time.' (HR Zone, June, 2013)
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Review quote

`Kelsey has produced a thoughtful and easily accessible book. While it will be of interest to a broad audience, its focus on preventing hubris and achieving potential should resonate with managers' (Irish Times, 21st January 2013)




`..an excellent book to study, to make your companion and to help you discover what's holding you back and what you could do to improve your situation.' (parentswithouttears.com, January 2013)




`...another helpful practical guide for those clear minds who already know what's missing-confidence...all the good decisions and ideas must have a strong base to carry them out; that's what confidence and this book can bring.' (Start Your Business, January 2013)




`...admirably broad minded, covering everything from depression to procrastination and calling in almost every philosopher on the market for nuggets of wisdom.' (People Management, February 2013)




`...practical, helpful advice' (The Sun, 8th February 2013)




`All good decisions and ideas must have a strong base to carry them out, that's what confidence and this book can bring.' (Start Your Business, February 2013)




`The book has range, depth, integrity and whilst it doesn't threaten you with quizzes or exercises, the congruence of all theories he draws on and the consistency of the message make it worthy of your time.' (HR Zone, June, 2013)
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About Robert Kelsey

Robert Kelsey is author of Capstone's bestselling What's Stopping You? exploring why smart people failed to reach their potential. He has gone on to sell over 64,000 copies across three What's Stopping You? titles.
Robert Kelsey is CEO of Moorgate Communications, a financial PR agency, and was previously CEO of Metrocube, a start-up incubator located in London's fashionable "City-fringes". He trained as a financial journalist before becoming an investment banker and a now an entrepreneur, running his successful PR agency.
Yet Kelsey remains and perennial outsider. From a rebellious childhood to an adulthood of pursuing a series of unsuitable careers, he has had a lifetime of failing to settle into any group activities, yet lacking the confidence, guile or know-how to profitably "rebel". Kelsey has developed an enormous insight into both the root causes of alienation and the all-encompassing negative consequences.
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