Untigering : Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent

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Peaceful parenting is hard enough for the average parent. Imagine trying to do it when you have the instincts of a tiger mother.

In Untigering, Iris Chen shares her journey of leaving behind authoritarian tiger parenting to embrace a respectful, relational way of raising children. As a Chinese American mom, she draws from her experiences of living in both North America and Asia and offers insights and practices to:

Heal from your childhood wounds Change your beliefs about yourself and your children Parent through connection instead of control Redefine your understanding of success Navigate and challenge cultural norms

Iris calls for a radical shift from parenting that is rooted in power to one that is grounded in partnership, but she does so with humor, humility, and empathy. This book is her invitation to you to begin your own journey of transformation as a parent.
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Product details

  • Paperback | 248 pages
  • 140 x 216 x 13mm | 290g
  • English
  • 1736825402
  • 9781736825402
  • 271,769

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"I couldn't put it down. What a heart-expanding experience! I found myself nodding my head, hand on my chest, repeating many of the sentences to myself and my family. Iris beautifully captured all the most important information to transition from fear-based to trust-based relationships."

- Lelia Schott, Synergy Parenting Resources

"...[T]here were so many powerful invitations to listen to my own nudges, as well as confront my own biases, too. It looks like a notebook the way I wrote and scribbled and hell-yea'd all through those pages!"

- Akilah S. Richards, Raising Free People Network

"What you're about to read in the following pages is worth it, it matters, it will make a world of difference. I'm so grateful that the children you encounter are going to be treated with more compassion and love because of it."

-Cindy Wang Brandt, author of Parenting Forward

"With radical honesty and gentle humour, Iris shares how she found her way from control to connection. In revealing the reality of breaking a generational cycle, Untigering lays a pathway for others to find their way too. Readers will love how Iris weaves her powerful stories amongst an intelligent takedown of the myths upon which punitive parenting is based."

-Lucy AitkenRead, Lulastic and the Hippyshake
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