Understanding the Borderline Mother : Helping Her Children Transcend the Intense, Unpredictable, and Volatile Relationship
Some readers may recognize their mothers as well as themselves in this book. They will also find specific suggestions for creating healthier relationships. Addressing the adult children of borderlines and the therapists who work with them, Dr. Lawson shows how to care for the waif without rescuing her, to attend to the hermit without feeding her fear, to love the queen without becoming her subject, and to live with the witch without becoming her victim.
- Hardback | 350 pages
- 162 x 242 x 28mm | 694g
- 01 Nov 2000
- Jason Aronson Inc. Publishers
- Northvale NJ, United States
Table of contents
Chapter 1 Make-Believe Mothers Chapter 2 The Darkness Within Chapter 3 The Waif Mother Chapter 4 The Hermit Mother Chapter 5 The Queen Mother Chapter 6 The Witch Mother Chapter 7 Make-Believe Children Chapter 8 Fairy-Tale Fathers Chapter 9 Loving the Waif Without Rescuing Her Chapter 10 Loving the Hermit Without Feeding Her Fear Chapter 11 Loving the Queen Without Becoming Her Subject Chapter 12 Living with the Witch Without Becoming Her Victim Chapter 13 Living Backwards
This wonderfully readable book is totally devoid of jargon and pedantry. The writing is concise and simple, although the subject is complex and weighty. With picturesque nosology, Dr. Lawson writes about the waif, hermit, queen, and witch mothers. Her unique examination of borderline mothers and how they relate to their children culminates in a discussion of what can be done for both from an interpersonal perspective. Replete with clinical vignettes, this book is entertaining as well as informative. -- Peter L. Giovacchini This well-researched and beautifully written book presents in graphic, specific, clinical detail overwhelming evidence to resolve any ambiguity about the relationship of the borderline mother to her children. The many faces of the borderline mother are nicely differentiated and described. Dr. Lawson also provides guidelines on how to manage a relationship with a borderline mother constructively. A helpful read for all therapists who work with borderline patients. -- James F. Masterson Masked by a smile, behind the pinafore of maternal attachment, lurks a borderline mother. Dr. Lawson offers a compelling portrait of mothers who project massive states of confusion and terror into their children. She presents a variety of mothers, including the make-believe mother, the fairy tale mother, the queen and witch mother, along with specific clinical suggestions for dealing with each type. This spellbinding contribution to the literature provides effective treatment procedures for therapists working within the spectrum of borderline phenomenology. -- Joan Lachkar Childhood lived with a borderline mother results in an unspeakable tragedy. Few of the child's developmental needs are met because the mother cannot be a parent. Consequently, the child is programmed for a lifelong struggle against failure. For over twenty years, people have shared their own agonizing stories with me, looking to my journey for a sense of hope. The compassionate understanding and professional assistance in this book are a road map out of failure. -- Christina Crawford
About Christine Ann Lawson
Christine Ann Lawson, Ph.D., is a clinical social worker in private practice in Indianapolis, Indiana. She has previously served as adjunct faculty at Indiana University-Purdue University, Indianapolis, and Butler University.