Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder

Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder : The Six Stages of Healing

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Have you been traumatized by infidelity? The phrase "broken heart" belies the real trauma behind the all-too-common occurrence of infidelity. Psychologist Dennis Ortman likens the psychological aftermath of sexual betrayal to post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in its origin and symptoms, including anxiety, irritability, rage, emotional numbing, and flashbacks. Using PTSD treatment as a model, Dr. Ortman will show you, step by step, how to: - work through conflicting emotions - Understand yourself and your partner - Make important life decisions Dr. Ortman sees recovery as a spiritual journey and draws on the wisdom of diverse faiths, from Christianity to Buddhism. He also offers exercises to deepen recovery, such as guided meditations and journaling, and explores heart-wrenchingly familiar case studies of couples struggling with monogamy. By the end of this book, you will have completed the six stages of healing and emerged with a whole heart, a full spirit, and the freedom to love more

Product details

  • Paperback | 256 pages
  • 149.86 x 226.06 x 15.24mm | 249.47g
  • Berkeley, United States
  • English
  • 1587613344
  • 9781587613340
  • 181,254

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Of all the books on infidelity, this is the first that pegs the aftermath, accurately in my view, as a trauma that results in a "stress disorder" with a clear plan for healing. Insightful and helpful. --Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting the Love You Want Dennis Ortman writes with generosity and grace about a very difficult topic. This book is honest, compassionate, and clinically smart; his strong spiritual message makes the subject of infidelity far more hopeful and humane. --Pat Love, EdD, author of The Truth About Love Dr. Ortman is right on in calling an infidelity a trauma. By uniting the wisdom of Western psychology with East-West spiritual traditions, he offers rich, practical guidance and hope. --Janis Abrahms Spring, PhD, author of After the Affair and How Can I Forgive You?show more

About Dennis C. Ortman

DENNIS ORTMAN is a psychologist in private practice in Detroit, Michigan. A Catholic priest for fourteen years, Dr. Ortman has been married for nineteen years. He is the author of The Dually Diagnosed and The Dual Diagnosis Recovery Sourcebook. THE AUTHOR SCOOP If you had to boil the message of Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder down to one sentence, what would it be? If you have suffered from an infidelity and are consumed by rage, read this book to find relief, forgiveness, and new life. Who is your hero? If I could spend a day talking with anyone, living or dead, it would be Abraham Lincoln. I admire him as a man who displayed steadfastness and wisdom guiding our country in its most trying time. Have you ever met a famous person? I spent five years studying in Rome and met many Church dignitaries, bishops, cardinals, and even the Pope. But none impressed me more than Mother Teresa. Her love, gentleness, and determination radiated from her tiny sub-five foot frame. What's the farthest you've ever traveled? I spent a summer in India working in the slums of Calcutta. That was my longest journey geographically, emotionally, and spiritually. Surprisingly, what impressed me most was not the desperate poverty, but the deep contentment and spirituality of many of the people I met. Where were you when you found out that Transcending Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder would be published? I was on a golf course in Florida when I received the call that my manuscript was accepted. After that, my golf game went south, and my buddies won some money. If you were alone on a desert island, what book would you take? If I were alone on a desert island, I would choose the Bible as my constant companion because of the inexhaustible wisdom it contains. A second book would be The Complete Works of William Shakespeare because of their poetic elegance and astute psychological more

Table of contents

CONTENTS   Acknowledgments   ix Preface   xi Introduction   1   Part One. Infidelity as Trauma   11   1. Symptoms of Post-Infidelity Stress Disorder (PISD)   12    Imprisoned in Hurt and Rage   2. Differing Responses of Men and Women to Infidelity   30    The Many Faces of PISD   3. Those Most Vulnerable to Trauma   40    A Heart Close to Breaking   4. Adult Children of Unfaithful Parents   55    The Pain Goes On   Part Two. Steps to Recovery from the Trauma   67   5. Stage 1: Calming the Emotional Storm    Finding a Safe Haven within Yourself   68 6. Stage 2: Understanding Your Unfaithful Partner    Why? . . . Why Me?   90 7. Stage 3: Seeking Self-Understanding    The Truth Will Set You Free   113 8. Stage 4: Making a Wise Decision    To Be or Not to Be . . . with Your Partner   138 9. Stage 5: Embracing Self-Forgiveness    Freeing Yourself to Love Again   163 10. Stage 6: Forgiving Your Unfaithful Partner    A Healing Journey   183 Epilogue. A Broken Heart Becomes an Open Heart   209   Appendix. Eight Exercises to Deepen Recovery   219   Notes   229 Suggested Reading   233 Index   236show more

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