They F*** You Up

They F*** You Up : How to Survive Family Life

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Clinical psychologist Oliver James demonstrates that who we are is largely the result of the way we were cared for during our first six years, rather than our genes and other environmental factors. The particular way we were treated in these earliest months and years explains why siblings can be so different. They may have been raised in the same family, but their mother and father related so differently to each of them that they might as well had a different parents. These early experiences affect our choices of friends and lovers, define our interests and professional drives, make us more or less prone to mental illness. James illustrates a vast body of startling new scientific evidence with detailed clinical case histories and those of prominent interviewees as diverse as Jeffrey Archer and Stephen Fry, along with revealing psychobiographies of the likes of Woody Allen, Mia Farrow and Prince Charles. Each chapter also includes a straightforward questionnaire that allows you to complete an 'emotional audit' so that you can be more aware of your role in the family script. Above all, "THEY F*** YOU UP" shows how insight into and understanding of what really went on in our original family drama can be life-changing.show more

Product details

  • Hardback | 384 pages
  • 154.94 x 236.22 x 38.1mm | 725.74g
  • Bloomsbury Publishing PLC
  • London, United Kingdom
  • 0747551561
  • 9780747551560

About Oliver James

Oliver James is a clinical psychologist, writer and journalist and television documentary producer. His books include JUVENILE VIOLENCE IN A WINNER-LOSER CULTURE and the bestselling BRITAIN ON THE COUCH which was also a successful documentary series for Channel 4.show more

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Clinical psychologist Oliver James argues that we are shaped far more by nurture than nature and that everything about our adult lives largely depends on our childhood experiences. This explains why siblings can be so unlike each other, and James gives an example of this through interviews with the identical twins Gail and Gillian Blakeney from the TV soap Neighbours who have identical genes but very different psychological profiles. Other more famous celebrity interviewees include Jeffrey Archer and Stephen Fry, and there are fascinating psychobiographies of Woody Allen, Mia Farrow and Prince Charles. However, the main thrust of this highly accessible book is to help us to move forward from being actors in a play scripted by our early childhood history to becoming the author of our own authentic experiences.show more

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