Standing on My Brother's Shoulders
'A deeply affecting memoir. Tara's courageous book tracks the nature and processes of destruction, and more than this, the crucial reconstructions that can follow.' Alex GarlandEverything finds its place, just as the colour and the beauty do, so does the pain. Tara Lal's childhood was battered by her father's mental illness and by her mother's death when she was thirteen. Caught up in grief and despair, she developed a deep, caring bond with her charismatic and kind older brother Adam, though he struggled silently with growing anxiety and depression. Four years after their mother's death, Adam took his own life. Grief and insecurity threatened to engulf Tara, but eventually she found, through a dialogue with the words her brother left behind in his diaries, her reason to live. The book includes an Afterword on the possibilities for recovery and growth following a tragedy, written by Miriam Akhtar, author of Positive Psychology for Overcoming Depression.
- Paperback | 208 pages
- 135 x 216 x 20.32mm | 367g
- 15 Sep 2015
- Watkins Media
- Watkins Publishing
- London, United Kingdom
This is, without question, the most beautifully written, sensitive, balanced account of grieving that I have ever read. This book is going to be an absolute must read . Patrick Casement, psychoanalyst and award-winning author of "On Learning from the Patient" and "Learning from Our Mistakes" A deeply affecting memoir. Tara s courageous book tracks the nature and processes of destruction, and more than this, the crucial reconstructions that can follow. Alex Garland, bestselling author of "The Beach" When she was young, Tara suffered two terribly cruel losses in quick succession. The compounded grief could have left her emotionally wiped out for life, but instead she learned from it in a most profound and moving way. She is now one of the bravest people I know, a woman of great competence working as a firefighter. She is an emotional and a physical warrior. She knows vulnerability well, but has learned how to live beyond loss, to make a meaningful life. Her story will stay with you and inspire you for ever. Dr Margo Orum, psychologistand author Tara s inspiring story takes therapy and moves it into real life. Her resilience comes from tenacity, intelligence and openness to new experiences. She persisted with study, work and relationships, using her courage and adaptiveness to create a life worthy of her and the people she loves. Tony Merritt, clinical psychologist This is the honest and at times raw telling of the story of a strong but vulnerable firefighter as she struggles with, and is transformed by, the legacy of grief associated with the childhood loss of loved ones. Those on a similar journey will find guidance, inspiration and reassurance in this open, heartfelt book. Susan Burton, psychologist I loved this book. So many times it expresses fears and doubts that we all have, in a succinct and yet profound manner. Tara s gift is to involve readers so completely in her journey that they, as I did, see the parallels in their own lives. I found it truly inspiring. Clinton Batty, psychologist"
About Tara J. Lal
Tara J Lal was born in London but now lives in Sydney, Australia. A firefighter and Mental Health First Aid Instructor, she is trained in suicide prevention and researches suicide and mental health in firefighters, as well as speaking on behalf of leading charities to raise awareness of suicide and mental illness. To find out more visit her website: www.tarajlal.com