Single, Gay, Christian

Single, Gay, Christian : A Personal Journey of Faith and Sexual Identity

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In an age where neither society nor the church knows what to do with gay Christians, Greg Coles tells his own story.
Let's make a deal, you and me. Let's make promises to each other.
I promise to tell you my story. The whole story. I'll tell you about a boy in love with Jesus who, at the fateful onset of puberty, realized his sexual attractions were persistently and exclusively for other guys. I'll tell you how I lay on my bed in the middle of the night and whispered to myself the words I've whispered a thousand times since:
"I'm gay."
I'll show you the world through my eyes. I'll tell you what it's like to belong nowhere. To know that much of my Christian family will forever consider me unnatural, dangerous, because of something that feels as involuntary as my eye color. And to know that much of the LGBTQ community that shares my experience as a sexual minority will disagree with the way I've chosen to interpret the call of Jesus, believing I've bought into a tragic, archaic ritual of self-hatred.
But I promise my story won't all be sadness and loneliness and struggle. I'll tell you good things too, hopeful things, funny things, like the time I accidentally came out to my best friend during his bachelor party. I'll tell you what it felt like the first time someone looked me in the eyes and said, "You are not a mistake." I'll tell you that joy and sorrow are not opposites, that my life has never been more beautiful than when it was most brokenhearted.
If you'll listen, I promise I'll tell you everything, and you can decide for yourself what you want to believe about me.
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Product details

  • Paperback | 128 pages
  • 140 x 210 x 13mm | 154g
  • Inter-Varsity Press,US
  • Illinois, United States
  • English
  • 0830845127
  • 9780830845125
  • 63,960

Table of contents

Prelude: Promises

1. Revelation

2. Almost Straight

3. Debating the Divine

4. What God Called Good

Interlude: A Song for the Unknowing

5. Stranger Incognito

6. To Know as I Am Known

7. Nature Abhors a Vacuum

8. Quo Vadis?

Postlude: A Letter to Myself at Age Twelve
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Review quote

I couldn't put it down. The blend of experience, wisdom, and beautiful prose grabbed hold of my heart and sent me on an adventure. Thank you, Greg, for challenging so much of what I thought I knew about the topic (and people!) of faith and sexuality. I cannot more highly recommend this book.--Preston Sprinkle, president of The Center for Faith, Sexuality & Gender, author of People to Be Loved
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About Gregory Coles

Gregory Coles is a coauthor of Jim Henson's "The Dark Crystal" Author Quest, a collection of short stories. Greg spent fifteen years growing up in the Muslim neighborhoods of Southeast Asia. Today he is a PhD student, part-time English instructor at Penn State University, and worship leader in his church.
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