Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Should I Stay or Should I Go? : A Guide to Sorting out Whether Your Relationship Can-and Should-be Saved

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A guide to making the ultimate relationship decision from the author of Why Does He Do That? In this supportive and straightforward guide, Lundy Bancroft, the author of Why Does He Do That?, and communication specialist JAC Patrissi offer a way for women to practically take stock of their relationships and move forward--with or without their partners. Women involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to: - Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working - Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem - Stop waiting to see what happens-and make their own growth the top priority - Prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the relationship workshow more

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  • Paperback | 384 pages
  • 149.86 x 226.06 x 20.32mm | 362.87g
  • Penguin Putnam Inc
  • Berkley Publishing Corporation,U.S.
  • New York, United States
  • English
  • 042523889X
  • 9780425238899
  • 60,088

About Lundy Bancroft

Lundy Bancroft has over twenty-five years of experience in the fields of abuse, trauma, and recovery. He has published five books, including the bestseller Why Does He Do That?, Daily Wisdom for Why Does He Do That?, When Dad Hurts Mom, The Batterer as Parent, and Should I Stay of Should I Go?. Lundy has worked with over 1000 abusive men in his counseling groups. He has also served extensively as a custody evaluator, child abuse investigator, and expert witness, and has presented to 350 audiences across the U.S. and abroad. JAC Patrissi is the founder and former director of the Vermont Victim Assistance Academy. She facilitates the Growing a New Heart Retreat series for women healing from destructive more

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Praise forWhy Does He Do That? Bancroft has opened a window into the thinking of abusive men, and his book helps open a door out of abusive relationships. Gavin de Becker, New York Timesbestselling author ofThe Gift of FearandFear Less This is without a doubt the most informative and useful book yet written on the subject of abusive men. Jay G. Silverman, PhD, director, Violence Prevention Programs, Harvard School of Public Health Jargon-free analysis is frequently broken up by interesting first-person accounts and boxes that distill in-depth information into simple checklists. Bancroft s book promises to be a beacon of calm for many storm-tossed families. Publishers Weekly Bancroft boldly asks and brilliantly answers the most important questions of all: Why do so many men abuse women? What can be done about it? This book is desperately needed and long overdue. Jackson Katz, creator of the award-winning videoTough Guise: Violence, Media and the Crisis in Masculinity This is essential reading for those in the helping professions and highly recommended. Library Journal At last the straight scoop on men who abuse women. This is a book not just for abused women and domestic violence professionals, but for everyone who wonders why there s so much violence in America. Read it. Ann Jones, author ofWhen Love Goes WrongandNext Time, She ll Be Dead Bancroft helps women who feel trapped in unhealthy relationships make sense out of what is happening. Sarah Buel, JD, codirector, Domestic Violence Clinic, and lecturer, University of Texas Law School A compelling read about a tough topic. What you read here will come back to you long after you put the book down. Angela Browne, author ofWhen Battered Women Kill An informative and necessary read. Susan Weitzman, PhD, author ofNot to People Like Us: Hidden Abuse in Upscale Marriages"show more

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