The Rules of Parenting

The Rules of Parenting

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Some parents make it look so easy.

They are eternally calm, have great relationships with their kids, and seem to have parenting down to a fine art. But is this really possible? How do they do it? Have you ever wondered what makes them so good?

These parents do many things right but have one thing in common. They know The Rules of Parenting. The set of golden behaviours that help you to help your kids look after themselves, enjoy life, be caring and kind, and help you to enjoy the whole experience too.

The Rules of Parenting is the reassuring support that thousands have been searching for. You don't have to be a perfect parent, and you don't have to have perfect children; this book will tell you why.

Templar's simple rules will reveal the small things that you can do to make a big difference; the behaviours, the motivations, the ways of thinking that will help you through both the early and later years of

parenting. None of them guarantee success, but they all increase your chances of bringing up happy, healthy children. And they will all show you how to remain sane, keep your sense of humour and be a great parent; after all, it's an important job to get right.

The Rules of Parenting puts everything in perspective and you in control. A simple set of principles and behaviours that will guide you smoothly through the challenge of being a parent.
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Product details

  • Paperback | 256 pages
  • 141 x 214 x 19mm | 330g
  • Pearson Life
  • Harlow, United Kingdom
  • English
  • 0273711474
  • 9780273711476
  • 236,224

Table of contents


Rules for staying sane

No one is perfect
Know what you're good at
Almost any rule can be broken occasionally
Don't try to do everything
You don't have to follow every piece of advice you get (including this one)
It's normal to want to escape
You're allowed to hide from your kids
Parents are people too
Don't ignore your relationship with your partner

Attitude Rules

Love is not enough
Every recipe needs different ingredients
Look pleased to see them
Treat your child with respect
Enjoy their company
Being tidy isn't as important as you think
Good parenting is calculated risk taking
Keep your worries to yourself
See things from their point of view
Parenting is not a competitive sport

Everyday Rules

Let them get on with it
Teach them to think for themselves
Use praise wisely
Know the value of boundaries
Bribery doesn't have to be bad
Moods are catching
You're setting their eating patterns for life
Set clear targets
Don't be a nag

Discipline Rules

Present a united front
Carrots beat sticks
Be consistent
Lighten up
Focus on the problem, not the person
Don't paint yourself into a corner
If you lose your temper, you're the loser
Apologise if you get it wrong
Let them back in
The right of expression

Personality Rules

Find out what incentives work for your child
Every child should have something they know they're good at
Learn to appreciate the qualities that remind you of someone else
Look for similiarities between you
Find qualities to admire in them
Let them be better than you
Their attitude is as important as their achievements
Keep your fears and insecurities to yourself
Mind your programming
Don't try to have a perfect child

Sibling Rules

Give them each other
Recognise that squabbling is healthy (within reason)
Teach them to sort out their own arguments
Work as a team
Let them entertain each other
Never compare children with each other
Different children need different rules
Don't have a favourite
Mix and match
Find each child's strengths

School Rules

Schooling isn't the same as education
School comes as a package
Fight your child's corner
Bullying is always serious
Teach them to stand up for themselves
Put up with friends of theirs you don't like
Remember you're their parent, not their teacher
Don't mollycoddle them
Let up the pressure
They have to live with their choices (and it's ok)

Teenage Rules

Don't Panic
Remember Newton's Third Law
Give them a voice
Don't look under the mattress
Running around after them doesn't help anybody
Don't stand in front of a speeding train
Yelling isn't the answer
Everything comes with strings
Show some respect for the things they care about
Adopt a healthy attitude to sex

Crisis Rules

Don't use your kids as ammunition
Let them cope in their own way
Being younger doesn't necessarily speed everything up
The aftershock can last forever
Tell them what's going on
Teach them to fail successfully
It's better to agree than to be right
All your actions speak louder than any of your words
Make sure they know they're priority no. 1
You can't fix everything

Grown-up Rules

Back off
Wait until they ask for advice
Treat them as adults
Don't try to be their best friend
Encourage them regardless
Leave the strings off
Don't guilt-trip them
Remember they still need you
It's not your fault
Once a parent, always a parent
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Review quote

"A realistic book that recognises the challenges all parents face and lays out a number of strategies to help you raise happy healthy children."

Derby Evening Telegraph
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About Ros Jay

Richard Templar is the author of the international bestselling Rules books. Over 2 million people around the world have enjoyed and now play by Richard Templar's Rules.

The complete list of titles is as follows: Rules of Life, Rules of Work, Rules of Management, Rules of Wealth, Rules of Parenting and Rules of Love.
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Our customer reviews

This book is just filled with sensible concepts intended to help with the child raising process from infancy on to adulthood. Although my wife and I did what I feel was a pretty solid job raising our two children, this book would have been a tremendous help guiding us and teaching us how to be more skilful at the job of being a parent. Well done Richard! I've bought a copy for our daughter who started the parental journey last year with the arrival of our lovely grand-daughter. I look forward to a lot of kitchen table discussion with my daughter about the contents of the Rules of Parenting. Thanks for compiling so much practical wisdom. Tom Simpson Lacombe, Alberta, Canada 403.505.8267show more
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