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Reinventing Your Life : How to Break Free from Negative Life Patterns

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Learn how to end the self-destructive behaviors that stop you from living your best life with this breakthrough program. Do you...
- Put the needs of others above your own?
- Start to panic when someone you love leaves--or threatens to?
- Often feel anxious about natural disasters, losing all your money, or getting seriously ill?
- Find that no matter how successful you are, you still feel unhappy, unfulfilled, or undeserving? Unsatisfactory relationships, irrational lack of self-esteem, feelings of being unfulfilled--these are all problems that can be solved by changing the types of messages that people internalize. These self-defeating behavior patterns are called "lifetraps," and Reinventing Your Life shows you how to stop the cycle that keeps you from attaining happiness. Two of America's leading psychologists, Jeffrey E. Young, Ph.D., and Janet S. Klosko, Ph.D., draw on the breakthrough principles of cognitive therapy to help you recognize and change negative thought patterns, without the aid of drugs or long-term traditional therapy. They describe eleven of the most common lifetraps, provide a diagnostic test for each, and offer step-by-step suggestions to help you break free of the traps. Thousands of men and women have seen the immediate and long-term results of the extraordinary program outlines in this clear, compassionate, liberating book. Its innovative approach to solving ongoing emotional problems will help you create a more fulfilling, productive life.
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Product details

  • Paperback | 365 pages
  • 134.62 x 200.66 x 22.86mm | 294.84g
  • New York, NY, United States
  • English
  • Reprint
  • Illustrations, unspecified
  • 0452272041
  • 9780452272040
  • 2,922

Table of contents

Reinventing Your LifeForeword by Aaron Beck, M.D.
Preface


1. Lifetraps
2. Which Lifetraps Do You Have?
3. Understanding Lifetraps
4. Surrender, Escape, and Counterattack
5. How Lifetraps Change
6. "Please Don't Leave Me!": The Abandonment Lifetrap
7. "I Can't Trust You": The Mistrust and Abuse Lifetrap
8. "I'll Never Get the Love I Need": The Emotional Deprivation Lifetrap
9. "I Don't Fit In": The Social Exclusion Lifetrap
10. "I Can't Make It on My Own": The Dependence Lifetrap
11. "Catastrophe Is About to Strike": The Vulnerability Lifetrap
12. "I'm Worthless": The Defectiveness Lifetrap
13. "I Feel Like Such a Failure": The Failure Lifetrap
14. "I Always Do It Your Way!": The Subjugation Lifetrap
15. "It's Never Quite Good Enough": The Unrelenting Standards Lifetrap
16. "I Can Have Whatever I Want": The Entitlement Lifetrap
17. A Philosophy of Change


References
Index
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Praise for Reinventing Your Life

Several of the most painful petards upon which people become hoisted during an unhappy childhood are neatly dispatched here by two cognitive therapists, who attack 11 common lifetraps destructive patterns that underlie a variety of emotional problems. Young and Klosko ably demonstrate how to deal with issues of abandonment, dependence, trust, social rejection, emotional deprivation, failure and vulnerability. They provide meaningful case histories, perceptive descriptions, diagnostic tests and a variety of nugget-sized, easily understood lists detailing the causes, danger signs and effects of negative impulses and actions, as well as ways to short-circuit them. Publishers Weekly

Using illustrations from case studies, the authors describe each lifetrap, discuss its origins in childhood experience, and provide a questionnaire for self-assessment. They then offer a program for change using techniques ranging from experiential (getting in touch with your inner child) to cognitive (writing a case against your lifetrap) and behavioral (identifying specific behaviors to be changed). Library Journal
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Praise for Reinventing Your Life "Several of the most painful petards upon which people become hoisted during an unhappy childhood are neatly dispatched here by two cognitive therapists, who attack 11 common 'lifetraps'--destructive patterns that underlie a variety of emotional problems. Young and Klosko ably demonstrate how to deal with issues of abandonment, dependence, trust, social rejection, emotional deprivation, failure and vulnerability. They provide meaningful case histories, perceptive descriptions, diagnostic tests and a variety of nugget-sized, easily understood lists detailing the causes, danger signs and effects of negative impulses and actions, as well as ways to short-circuit them."--Publishers Weekly "Using illustrations from case studies, the authors describe each lifetrap, discuss its origins in childhood experience, and provide a questionnaire for self-assessment. They then offer a program for change using techniques ranging from experiential (getting in touch with your inner child) to cognitive (writing a 'case' against your lifetrap) and behavioral (identifying specific behaviors to be changed)."--Library Journal
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About Jeffrey E. Young

Jeffrey E. Young, PhD, serves on the faculty of the Department of Psychiatry at Columbia University. He is director of the Cognitive Therapy Center of New York as well as the Schema Therapy Institute. Dr. Young founded schema therapy, and is a founding fellow of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. Dr. Young has lectured and presented workshops on cognitive and schema therapies for the past 25 years and consistently receives outstanding evaluations internationally for his teaching skills. He has published extensively, including two major books, Schema Therapy: A Practitioner's Guide, for mental health professionals, and Reinventing Your Life, a bestselling self-help book. Dr. Young is coauthor of a psychotherapy outcome study evaluating the effectiveness of cognitive therapy in comparison to antidepressant medication. He has also served as consultant on many cognitive and schema therapy research grants, including the NIMH Collaborative Study of Depression, and on the editorial boards of journals including Cognitive Therapy and Research and Cognitive & Behavioral Practice. For his exceptional teaching skills, Dr. Young was awarded the prestigious NEEI Mental Health Educator of the Year award in 2003. Janet S. Klosko, PhD, Codirector of the Cognitive Therapy Center of Long Island, in Great Neck, New York, is senior psychologist at the Schema Therapy Institute and at Woodstock Women's Health in Woodstock, New York.
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Not just any self help book. This one is practical, clear, and effective. A friend passed it on to me and I have since given it to others. It provides step by step activities to help you identify and change negative patterns in your life, from attracting the wrong partner to feeling like a failure at work. Definitely worth a read.show more
by Tanya Dobbyn
My counsellor saw that I liked to read so she suggested this text for me. I do enjoy reading it. It's easy to read, informative and well laid out with introductory chapters, self assessment questionnaires and case examples.show more
by Linh
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