Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder

Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder : A Family Guide for Healing and Change

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BPD is a potentially devastating mental disorder characterized by unstable moods, negative self-image, and dangerous impulsivity. Many people with BPD excel in academics and careers while revealing erratic, self-destructive, and sometimes violent behavior only to those with whom they are intimate. Others have trouble simply holding down a job or staying in school. It is believed that suicide claims about one in ten people with BPD.
Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder: A Family Guide for Healing and Change is a compassionate, informative, and reassuring guide to understanding this profoundly unsettling-and widely misunderstood-mental illness, believed to affect 2-3% of the general population. Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder offers families and loved ones supportive guidance that both validates the difficulties they face and shows how they can be overcome. Rather than viewing people
with BPD as manipulative opponents in a bitter struggle, or pitying them as emotional invalids, this book argues that BPD is in fact a true neurobiological disorder. It clearly explains what BPD is, which therapies have proven most effective, and how to overcome the stigma associated with the disorder. The book teaches
concerned family members effective coping behaviors and interpersonal skills, such as new ways of talking about emotions, building awareness of nonverbal communication, and validating difficult experiences. These skills are derived from Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Mentalization Therapy, two evidence-based treatments that have proven highly successful in reducing family conflict and aggressive incidents in the home, while increasing hope and trust.
Providing accessible explanations of cutting-edge neurobiological research, Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder takes a fundamentally different approach to the disorder: an empowering and hopeful guide to increasing understanding of the BPD experience-and to making use of that understanding in day-to-day interactions.
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Product details

  • Paperback | 424 pages
  • 157 x 234 x 28mm | 560g
  • New York, United States
  • English
  • 0195379586
  • 9780195379587
  • 34,392

Table of contents

Introduction ; Foreword ; 1. A Voice for the Voiceless: Validating Families of People with BPD ; 2. The Juggler: Reframing BPD - An Overview of Neurobiology of the Disorder ; 3. How Do You Change Behavior ; 4. Validation: Talking to the Amygdala ; 5. How to Speak Emotion: What are Emotions - Learning the Language of BPD ; 6. Radical Acceptance and Grieving ; 7. Understanding DBT ; 8. Mindfulness and DBT Coping Skills ; 9. Is DBT enough? Understanding Mentalization ; 10. Putting it All Together: How to Do the DBT Dance ; 11. Collaborating for Change: What Clinicians Need to Know ; 12. Advocacy ; References
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"Valerie Porr has championed the cause of people with borderline personality disorder for decades. Her understanding of the disorder and its effects on the individuals themselves and their families, partners, and friends is outstanding. This readable and informative book distils her years of experience and her first hand knowledge of how to help patients and families, providing the practical wisdom that comes only with a genuine understanding of what it is to be 'borderline'. This is required reading for anyone, from novice to expert, who seeks an understanding of borderline personality disorder and who wants practical guidance on what helps."
--Anthony Bateman, Consultant Psychiatrist and Psychotherapist, Barnet, Enfield, and Haringey Mental Health NHS Trust and Visiting Professor University College, London

"Overcoming Borderline Personality Disorder by Valerie Porr is like water for a parched land. Few psychiatric disorders are as misunderstood as borderline personality disorder, a condition that can be profoundly disabling to patients and devastating to families. Opinions about what families should do are plentiful, but evidence-based guidance, derived from solid research, is rare. This is what this book delivers. It is an invaluable roadmap for families of patients with BPD."
--John Oldham, Chief of Staff, The Menninger Clinic

"An important book for family members of people with BPD."
--Larry Siever, Professor of Psychiatry, Mount Sinai School of Medicine

"She ably explains neuroscience as it applies here and emphasizes understanding, validation, and acceptance (not unconditional love)... An outstanding model of the psychoeducational approach, this volume bridges a daunting gap between laity and psychotherapists. Highly recommended for professionals as well as families of these patients." --Library Journal
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About Valerie Porr

Valerie Porr, M.A., is a mental health advocate trained in Dialectical Behavior Therapy, the most widely-used therapeutic technique for BPD, and the founder and president of the Treatment and Research Advancements National Association for Personality Disorder (TARA NAPD). She conducts psycho-educational training seminars for family members of those with BPD, in New York and elsewhere. The coauthor of New Hope for People with Borderline
Personality Disorder, Porr lives in New York City.
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