Once We Were Sisters

Once We Were Sisters : A Memoir

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"A searing and intimate memoir about love turned deadly." --The BBC
"An intimate illumination of sisterhood and loss." --People
When Sheila Kohler was thirty-seven, she received the heart-stopping news that her sister Maxine, only two years older, was killed when her husband drove them off a deserted road in Johannesburg. Stunned by the news, she immediately flew back to the country where she was born, determined to find answers and forced to reckon with his history of violence and the lingering effects of their most unusual childhood--one marked by death and the misguided love of their mother.
In her signature spare and incisive prose, Sheila Kohler recounts the lives she and her sister led. Flashing back to their storybook childhood at the family estate, Crossways, Kohler tells of the death of her father when she and Maxine were girls, which led to the family abandoning their house and the girls being raised by their mother, at turns distant and suffocating. We follow them to the cloistered Anglican boarding school where they first learn of separation and later their studies in Rome and Paris where they plan grand lives for themselves--lives that are interrupted when both marry young and discover they have made poor choices. Kohler evokes the bond between sisters and shows how that bond changes but never breaks, even after death.
"A beautiful and disturbing memoir of a beloved sister who died at the age of thirty-nine in circumstances that strongly suggest murder. . . . Highly recommended." --Joyce Carol Oates
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Product details

  • Paperback | 244 pages
  • 132 x 201 x 15mm | 272g
  • Penguin Books
  • English
  • Illustrations, unspecified
  • 0143129295
  • 9780143129295
  • 627,053

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In this intimate, exquisitely written memoir, the author s first work of nonfiction, she explores the impenetrable bond that can exist between sisters. . . . In spare, delicate prose, Kohler brings a seasoned novelist's skills to this deeply moving, compelling memoir. Kirkus Reviews(starred review)
Sheila Kohler has written a beautiful and disturbing memoir of a beloved sister who died at the age of thirty-nine in circumstances that strongly suggest murder. Like all of Sheila Kohler s prose work, Once We Were Sisters reveals its story by degrees, amid a richly sensuous milieu of South African white privilege and repression. It is a tragic tale, with echoes of cultural sexism and misogyny, yet a triumphant story of a young woman s liberation from this culture and her emergence as a writer. Highly recommended. Joyce Carol Oates, National Book Award-winning author ofThem
Young Sheila Kohler abandons the time-warp of 1950s South Africa and heads for Europe on a voyage of self-discovery. Her quest to find out what it is that she desires a quest that will last decades and is recounted with the seriousness it deserves, lightened with touches of dry comedy ends in the discovery that she is and has always been a writer. The most striking parts of this rich and poignant memoir rich above all in sensual experience reflect on the necessary cruelty of the writer s art, sacrificing the truth of the world to the truth of fiction. J.M. Coetzee, author of Disgrace and winner of the Nobel Prize in Literature
Throughout her literary career, Sheila Kohler has obsessively tried to find closure and justice for her sister s untimely death and, finally, in this memoir she has succeeded in coming to terms with the tragedy by movingly recalling their childhood together and expressing her love for her sister. Lily Tuck, National Book Award-winning author of The Double Life of Liliane
For unto whom much is given, of him shall be much required: this Biblical verse takes on a tragic ring as this memoir of a privileged childhood ends in murder. Sheila Kohler has put together this heartfelt, suspenseful confession with a lifetime s worth of skill and an abundance of inborn genius. Edmund White, author of A Boy s Own Story
Sheila Kohler's writing is visually potent, viscerally compelling, and intensely personal. InOnce We Were Sistersshe conjures a lost world of privilege, violence, and repression that has chilling parallels in contemporary life. Rebecca Miller, author ofPersonal Velocity
This lean memoir cuts straight to the heart of what it is to love and lose a sister. Kohler sidesteps nothing; her private rage, regret, heartbreak, and revelation mingle unforgettably with the public shame of apartheid. Once We Were Sisters is an exquisite and devastating book. Tracy K. Smith, Pulitzer Prize-winning author of Ordinary Light
To write a first-rate memoir is to encounter a mystery. In Sheila Kohler's brilliantly intelligent, beautifully written, sensually detailed, sexy, exquisitely restrained and shocking memoir, there are several mysteries: Why do we act the way we do? Why are we passive when we should be active, and vice versa? What does it take for a young woman to find out who she is? What griefs, what losses must attend that discovery? How to account for the cruelty and self-indulgence of men, or the willed blindness and guilt of women? 'What is it I have done or failed to do?' the memoirist keeps asking here, and her responses are unfailingly, stringently honest. Phillip Lopate, author of Being With Children
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About Sheila Kohler

Sheila Kohler was born in Johannesburg, South Africa. She is the author of fourteen works of fiction including the novels Dreaming for Freud, Becoming Jane Eyre, and Cracks, which was nominated for the IMPAC Dublin Literary Award and made into a film starring Eva Green. Her work has been featured in the New York Times and O Magazine and included in The Best American Short Stories. She has twice won an O'Henry Prize, as well as an Open Fiction Award, a Willa Cather Prize, and a Smart Family Foundation Prize. She teaches at Princeton University and lives in New York City.
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