No Means No! : Teaching personal boundaries, consent; empowering children by respecting their choices and right to say 'no!'
'No Means No!' is a children's picture book about an empowered little girl who has a very strong and clear voice in all issues, especially those relating to her body and personal boundaries. This book can be read to children from 3 to 9 years. It is a springboard for discussions regarding children's choices and their rights. The 'Note to the Reader' at the beginning of the book and the 'Discussion Questions' on the final pages, guide and enhance this essential discussion. It is crucial that our children, from a very young age, are taught to have a clear, strong voice in regards to their rights - especially about their bodies. In this way, they will have the confidence to speak up when they are unhappy or feel uncomfortable in any situation. A strong, confident voice as a young child converts to a strong, confident pre-teen, teenager and adult. With the prevalence today of online and offline bullying and various forms of abuse, such as physical, emotional and sexual abuse; our young people need to learn (from a young age) to always speak up when their rights are not being respected. The aim of this book is to empower young children and to give them a voice so they can grow up into empowered adults. When a child, teenager or adult says, 'No!' to any form of coercion, this should be immediately respected. A world where 'No!' does actually mean 'No!' can be a world with far less violence and increased respect for humankind. By educating our children to have true respect for one another, this world can be a much safer and more positive place. Body Safety Education (aka sexual abuse prevention education) empowers girls and boys through knowledge, and teaches them they have the right to say, 'No' and to respect other's personal boundaries. Both girls and boys need to learn to ask for consent and this can be taught from a very young age. Some of the scenarios in this book are typical of approaches used by sexual abusers (sexual predators/molesters/pedophiles) when grooming children for sexual abuse. Their aim is to desensitize the child to having their personal space violated and desensitize them to touch. For more information on Body Safety Education and how to teach it to your child go to www.secrets.info
- Paperback | 28 pages
- 203 x 254 x 2mm | 98g
- 28 Mar 2015
- Upload Publishing Pty Ltd
- 18 Illustrations; Illustrations, color
This quickly became a favorite in our home and has taught our child that it's not OK to be forced into hugging, kissing, or touching someone else and that it is OK to tell someone that you don't want to be touched. DH83 on Amazon This book is terrific. The other night, I was sitting on the floor as my daughter walked by me. I grabbed her and gave her a hug and a kiss. Her response? "No Mommy! This is MY body and I'm the boss of it! No means no!" I have never been so proud of her. And lesson learned!: ) Naomi on Amazon My daughter is 2, nearing 3, and she likes to read this book, which makes me so happy. It is a sweet, shorter story that empowers her about her words! We have been able to use this when family members try to tickle her and she doesn't want to, or they want kisses and she doesn't want to, I quietly remind her that she can choose otherwise and suggest "a high five or to blow a kiss," or with the tickling I tell her that No means No and she can go tell them to stop (I usually call her over to me so that it does stop but she has the opportunity to use her strong voice and have it heard instead of me telling the adult to stop.) She responds so well to it and I am full of joy to have this book as a tool to help me raise a daughter with respect for her body and choices, and the knowledge that her No needs to be honored, too. I recommend this book! Maureen Eigen on Amazon