Loving Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder : How to Keep Out-of-Control Emotions from Destroying Your Relationship
People with borderline personality disorder (BPD) can be intensely caring, warm, smart, and funny-but their behavior often drives away those closest to them. If you're struggling in a tumultuous relationship with someone with BPD, this is the book for you. Dr. Shari Manning helps you understand why your spouse, family member, or friend has such out-of-control emotions-and how to change the way you can respond. Learn to use simple yet powerful strategies that can defuse crises, establish better boundaries, and radically transform your relationship. Empathic, hopeful, and science based, this is the first book for family and friends grounded in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), the most effective treatment for BPD.
- Paperback | 253 pages
- 149.86 x 226.06 x 20.32mm | 317.51g
- 19 Jul 2011
- Guilford Publications
- New York, United States
"More than many other disorders, BPD affects relationships. This book offers families and friends invaluable skills for helping both their loved one and themselves. Dr. Manning has done a beautiful job. A 'must read.'"--Perry D. Hoffman, PhD, President, National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder"Try out the recommendations this book gives you. You will be surprised by how much better your relationships become."--from the Foreword by Marsha M. Linehan, PhD, Director, Behavioral Research and Training Clinics, University of Washington"The title says it all! Dr. Manning explains what she has learned about the true nature of BPD from the experts themselves--those who have the disorder. She shows family and friends how our instinctive responses to the crises associated with BPD are frequently ineffective or even harmful, and illuminates what we can do differently, providing practical, incisive, step-by-step guidance. We highly recommend this book."--Jim and Diane Hall, parents of an adult child with BPD and Family Educators for the National Alliance on Mental Illness and the National Education Alliance for Borderline Personality Disorder
About Shari Y. Manning
Shari Y. Manning, PhD, is a clinician in private practice and the former President/CEO of Behavioral Tech and Behavioral Tech Research, the organizations founded by Marsha M. Linehan to provide training in DBT. Dr. Manning has focused on the treatment of people with BPD since 1993. She lives in Columbia, South Carolina.
Table of contents
Foreword, Marsha M. LinehanIntroductionI. Understanding Your Loved One and Your Relationship1. "Why Do I Feel So Lost in This Relationship?"2. What Makes Someone So Emotional?3. The Hidden Power of Validation4. Five Steps to Balanced Responses and Better OutcomesII. The Many Faces of Borderline Personality Disorder5. ""I Can't Stand Feeling Like This!""6. ""It Was All My Fault""7. ""You Have to Fix This for Me!""8. ""Things Are Awful . . . but Don't Worry; I'm Handling It""9. ""Why Do Terrible Things Keep Happening to Me?""10. ""Nothing's Wrong-I'm Fine""III. Dealing with Crisis and Getting Help11. Handling Your Own Difficult Emotions12. Understanding Self-Harm/Suicide and Making Decisions about Hospitalization13. Getting Treatment and SupportResources