Love You, Mean it

Love You, Mean it

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How would you feel and what would you do if, one glorious, sunny day your partner and love were to die suddenly, when all he did was go to work and you didn't even wake up properly to say goodbye? How could you possibly cope? In "Love You, Mean It", four women whose husbands died in the World Trade Center tell their own, very remarkable, moving and honest stories, the stories of their very different marriages, the paths that led them to September 11th. They explain how it was only when they came together, drawn as much by their diverse backgrounds as their shared tragedy, that their mutual support and love saw them through their darkest hours. The truths they discovered in the process are universal, compelling and altogether more

Product details

  • Hardback | 336 pages
  • 136 x 222 x 32mm | 548g
  • Penguin Books Ltd
  • Michael Joseph Ltd
  • London, United Kingdom
  • 0718152719
  • 9780718152710
  • 1,213,508

Author information

Patricia Carrington married Jeremy "Caz" Carrington in 2000. She is a managing director at Deutsche Asset Management and lives in Brooklyn with her dog, Lola. Julia Collins married Tom Collins in 2000. She works for the National Football League in their consumer products division, and lives in Manhattan. Claudia Gerbasi married Bart Ruggiere in 2000. She is a sales director for Cole Haan and lives with her current husband, John Donovan, in downtown Manhattan. Ann Haynes married Ward Haynes in 1994. She recently stopped working as a financial planner in order to devote more time to her three children at their home in Rye, New more

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Four 9/11 widows' jointly written account of life after the Twin Towers fell.They didn't know each other five years ago, but following 9/11, Carrington, Collins, Gerbasi and Haynes formed the Widows' Club. Here they pay homage to their dead husbands, recounting the harrowing hours of Sept. 11 and describing the process of adjusting to life alone. Gerbasi's account of the actual day is especially heartrending; she vividly recreates the horrifying feeling of not knowing whether her beloved was dead or alive, of the slowly dawning realization that he might not come home. The four women became closer than sisters: They hung out all the time, took trips together-in fact, spent so much time with each other that their relatives began to get sick of hearing about their fellow widows. "This was a club that none of us wanted to be members of," they write, but the comfort of being with other women who completely understood their grief, their guilt and their fear was invaluable. In this communal recollection, they discuss the stresses of single parenting and the pressure to be the perfect 9/11 widow: "She protests. She appears in front of Congress. She organizes. We'd managed none of this." The dramas of beginning to date provide some comic relief, as do the lists of stupid, if well-intentioned, things people say. The most stunning gaffe came from a therapist who, 30 minutes into an intake interview, told Gerbasi that she needed to get on with her life. Sometimes one of the four women narrates in the first person, while at other points, the first-person-plural takes over, as in their final conclusion that "by writing all this down, we've been able to see in black and white just how far we've come and how much we've helped one another." This shifting point-of-view can be disorienting, but the prose, both individual and collective, is surprisingly strong.Respectful and serious yet fun, moving but rarely maudlin. (Kirkus Reviews)show more

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