The Joy of Saying No

The Joy of Saying No : A Simple Plan to Stop People Pleasing, Reclaim Boundaries, and Say Yes to the Life You Want

3.9 (107 ratings by Goodreads)
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3.9 (107 ratings by Goodreads)

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Are you still playing a role you learned in childhood to please others, such as the Good Girl/Boy, the Overachiever, or the Helper? Though these kinds of roles may have gained us attention and affection, they prohibited us from becoming our true selves.

People-pleasing--putting others ahead of ourselves to avoid something negative or to get something we want or need--runs rampant in our society. Saying yes when we should say no leaves us stuck in frustrating patterns. And when we don't say yes authentically, we say it resentfully, which leads to more problems than if we'd said no in the first place.

The Joy of Saying No will help you identify your people-pleasing style and habits. A six-step framework then teaches you how to discover the healing and transformative power of no to

establish healthier boundaries,
foster more intimate relationships and fulfilling experiences, and
reconnect with your values and authentic self.
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Product details

  • Hardback | 240 pages
  • 158 x 236 x 22mm | 376g
  • Harper Horizon
  • Nashville, United States
  • English
  • 0785290443
  • 9780785290445
  • 6,014

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'Natalie Lue is a leading voice on healthy boundaries. This is a beautiful, compassionate resource. Highly recommend it to you.' * Suzy Reading, psychologist and author of The Self-Care Revolution * 'Nat's book is the first place I recommend anyone going if they were to take back control of their life. Through simple tools, straightforward talking and compelling storytelling, Nat has created a boundaries bible.' * Emma Gannon, bestselling author of The Multi-Hyphen Method * 'With her unrivalled insight into the ways of people pleasing, Natalie Lue nails the reasons why we continually say yes and gives us permission not to. Enjoy the joy of saying NO, relieved of guilt or obligation. Freedom awaits.' * Susanna Reid, presenter of ITV's Good Morning Britain *
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About Natalie Lue

Natalie Lue is a writer, speaker, podcaster, artist, and founder of one of the longest running self-help blogs in the world, Baggage Reclaim and The Baggage Reclaim Sessions podcast. The British-born, Dublin, Ireland-raised author helps people understand how their emotional baggage is interfering with their ability to live their lives happily and authentically. Her advice has been featured in the New York Times, Forbes, NPR, USA Today, and the BBC, among many others. Natalie lives in Caterham, Surrey, on the edge of south London with her husband, two daughters, and cockerpoo.
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3 26% (28)
2 7% (8)
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