Helping Couples Get Past the Affair

Helping Couples Get Past the Affair

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From leading marital therapists and researchers, this unique book presents a three-stage therapy approach for clinicians working with couples struggling in the aftermath of infidelity. The book provides empirically grounded strategies for helping clients overcome the initial shock, understand what happened and why, think clearly about their best interests before they act, and move on emotionally, whether or not they ultimately reconcile. The volume is loaded with vivid clinical examples and carefully designed exercises for use both during sessions and at more

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  • Hardback | 368 pages
  • 160.02 x 228.6 x 30.48mm | 612.35g
  • Guilford Publications
  • New York, United States
  • English
  • black & white tables
  • 1606230670
  • 9781606230671
  • 868,564

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"A groundbreaking book. We have long known that traditional couple therapy models are not applicable to treating couples who experience infidelity. Baucom et al. offer a revolutionary approach in which infidelity is conceptualized as a traumatic event, yet they are able to facilitate empathy for both parties. This is a delicate balance, and the authors manage it brilliantly. I have already begun using this therapy model in my private practice and teaching it to my clinical psychology graduate students, with wonderful results." - Erika Lawrence, Department of Psychology, University of Iowa, USA "Baucom, Snyder, and Gordon have established themselves as leaders in the field of infidelity research and treatment. Based on sound theory and accumulating evidence, this book is a clear-headed, compassionate guide for working with the volatile emotional issue of infidelity." - Andrew Christensen, Department of Psychology, University of California, Los Angeles, USA "This book offers a lucid, fascinating, and much-needed map to the difficult terrain of affairs: how they occur and how to deal with them. It is comprehensive and full of clinical examples. Clinicians everywhere will find this book invaluable." - Susan M. Johnson, School of Psychology, University of Ottawa, Ontario, Canada "What I love about this book is how close it stays to the ground in offering therapists a series of practical steps for working with couples traumatized by an affair. The authors draw on extensive clinical experience and research to present a three-stage model that addresses 'impact,' 'meaning,' and 'moving on.' With its sensible framework and creative techniques, this book is an ideal resource for both beginning and veteran couple therapists. I know it will be an invaluable addition to my practice toolkit." - Jefferson A. Singer, Department of Psychology, Connecticut College, USA "It is wonderful to have a practical book addressing the dark shadow in many couple relationships. Baucom, Snyder, and Gordon are an incredibly strong team of clinician-researchers, and this book distills their collective experience into a very useful guide. As the authors point out, the discovery of infidelity is often traumatic, and managing the effects of this trauma is critical to providing effective assistance. Couple therapists of all persuasions will want this practical volume on their shelves." - W. Kim Halford, School of Psychology, University of Queensland, Australia "Infidelity can be as overwhelming to the clinician as it is to the couple. Baucom et al. lucidly explain how to guide clients through this tumultuous issue to a stronger and more authentic relationship. Informed by the authors' considerable clinical wisdom, this book is a 'must-have' for clinicians who work with couples." - Valerie E. Whiffen, in private practice, Vancouver, British Columbia, Canada "This is a major contribution to the literature on treatment of infidelity and a book that all couple therapists should read. Infidelity is one of the most challenging presenting problems for even the most seasoned clinician. Integrating cognitive-behavioral, systems, and insight-oriented theoretical models, the approach is highly relevant for a wide range of therapists. In addition, the extensive session vignettes, chapter summaries, and clear writing make this a great resource for graduate courses in couple therapy." - Norman B. Epstein, Department of Family Science, University of Maryland, College Park, USAshow more

About Donald H. Baucom

Donald H. Baucom, PhD, is Richard Lee Simpson Distinguished Professor of Psychology at the University of North Carolina. His research focuses on couples and marriage, with an emphasis on the integration of basic research and applied treatment outcome investigations. Through his approximately 175 publications, he has helped to shape scientific understanding of the role of cognitions in intimate relationships, and has contributed to the development of cognitive-behavioral couple therapy. Dr. Baucom is an award-winning teacher and mentor who maintains an active clinical practice with couples and individuals. Douglas K. Snyder, PhD, is Professor of Psychology and Director of Clinical Training at Texas A&M University. Dr. Snyder has been recognized nationally for his research on marital assessment and for his outcome research on marital therapy. Widely published, he is a recipient of the American Psychological Association's Distinguished Contributions to Family Psychology Award, among other honors. In addition to his research and teaching, Dr. Snyder maintains a clinical practice specializing in couple therapy. Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD, is Associate Professor and Associate Director of Clinical Training in the clinical psychology program at the University of Tennessee. She has served as Vice-President for Science for the American Psychological Association's Division 43, Family Psychology, and is currently chair of their task force on empirically validated couple and family therapies. The author of numerous articles and book chapters, Dr. Gordon conducts research on forgiveness and family processes and maintains a clinical practice specializing in couple more

Table of contents

Part I: Preparing for Treatment. Conceptualizing an Integrative Treatment for Affair Couples. Initial Assessment and Formulation. Creating a Therapeutic Environment. Part II: Stage 1 of Treatment. Damage Control. Restoring Equilibrium. Addressing Emotional Upheaval. Part III: Stage 2 of Treatment. Preparing the Couple to Examine Contributing Factors. Examining Relationship Factors. Examining Outside Factors. Examining Individual Partner Factors. Complex Affairs. Tying it All Together: Creating a Formulation of How the Affair Occurred. Part IV: Stage 3 of Treatment. Addressing Issues of Forgiveness and Barriers to Moving Forward. Moving Forward. Concluding more