The Heart of Nonviolent Communication

The Heart of Nonviolent Communication : 25 Keys to Shift From Separation to Connection

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Do you want to express yourself honestly and compassionately? Learn to live in choice rather than submit or rebel? This book explores 25 key distinctions that reveal the consciousness embedded in Nonviolent Communication. Drawing on brain science with awareness of systemic conditioning, each chapter presents examples from around the world alongside practices that will move you toward the spirit of true connection.
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Product details

  • Paperback | 400 pages
  • 152 x 228mm
  • Encitas, United States
  • English
  • 1934336424
  • 9781934336427

Table of contents

Foreword Introduction Part 1. Fundamentals 1.Life-Connected and Life-Disconnected Mindsets 2.Moralistic Judgments and Value Judgments 3.Interdependence and Dependence or Independence 4.Power-With and Power-Over 5.Choice and Submission or Rebellion Part 2. Components 6.Observation and Observation Mixed With Evaluation 7.Feelings and Feelings Mixed With Thoughts 8.Needs and Strategies 9.Requests and Demands 10.Idiomatic Language and Classical (Formal) Language Part 3. Options for Connection 11.Being Giraffe and Doing Giraffe 12.Empathy and Sympathy or Other Responses 13.Empathic Sensing and Intellectual Guessing 14.Self-Empathy and Acting Out, Repressing, or Wallowing 15.Jackal Honesty and Giraffe Honesty Part 4. Options for Power 16.Punitive Use of Force and Protective Use of Force 17.Respect for Authority and Fear of Authority 18.Self-Discipline and Obedience Part 5. Further Applications 19.Natural and Habitual Ways of Being 20.Vulnerability and Weakness 21.Stimulus and Cause 22.Persisting and Demanding 23.Shift and Compromise 24.Appreciation and Approval, Compliments, or Praise 25.Love as a Feeling and Love as a Need Conclusion Acknowledgments Appendices Notes Index The Four-Part Nonviolent Communication Process Some Basic Feelings We All Have Nonviolent Communication Research and About Nonviolent Communication About PuddleDancer Press About the Center for Nonviolent Communication PuddleDancer Press Book and Booklets About the Author
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About Stephanie Bachmann Mattei

Stephanie Bachmann Mattei is a certified trainer and assessor with the Center for Nonviolent Communication, an affiliated teacher with the Right Use of Power(TM) Institute, and a Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction teacher with the Center for Mindfulness at the University of California, San Diego. She holds a research degree in philosophy from the Universita' Degli Studi di Firenze, Italy. She wrote her dissertation on the sixfold system of Indian philosophy while living in ashram under Swami Yogamudrananda Saraswati. Kristin K. Collier has published poems, articles, and essays online and in magazines such as The Sun. Kristin's 2016 memoir, Housewife: Home- Remaking in a Transgender Marriage, won several awards, including a prestigious Nautilus Book Award. She and her parenting partner, Seda Collier, have been featured on NPR's Snap Judgment. Kristin has been developing and sharing her practice of Nonviolent Communication since 2004, with a special interest in parenting. She is a teacher and administrator for social groups that serve neurodiverse children and youth, including young people on the autism spectrum. In these roles, she teaches about relationships and sexuality, and integrates the skills and spirit of Nonviolent Communication into every curriculum. Kristin continues to learn about courage and adventure from her now-adult sons and enjoys canoeing, backpacking, and dancing the Lindy Hop. Her work, focusing on joy, can be found at
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