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Goodbye Pink Room : Rose's Story

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When Rose was warned by her mother to keep away from men who hid behind bushes and did unspeakable things to children, she was very careful to check behind every bush. But when her parents encouraged her to go on frequent trips with family friend, Uncle George, that was different - wasn't it? Rose loved to be filmed dancing - until he showed her the film, which looked rude. Suddenly Uncle George was asking what Mummy would say if she saw it. He said he'd keep it secret, as long as Rose did everything he expected... and as his demands grew, so Rose was plunged into a terrifying and painful world. Only when she reached mid-life, and with support, was she able to face what had happened in order to find hope for the future. Written almost entirely from the child's perspective, this remarkable true story gives unique insight into how abusers gain control of children and their families - and why children often cannot speak up.show more

Product details

  • Paperback | 208 pages
  • 128 x 196 x 20mm | 220g
  • Lion Hudson Plc
  • Lion Books
  • Oxford, United Kingdom
  • English
  • New edition
  • New edition
  • 0745956467
  • 9780745956466
  • 1,771,912

About Jane Grayshon

Jane Grayshon began her working career in nursing, before becoming an accomplished broadcaster, speaker and author. She has written nine books and taught creative writing for many years.show more

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This is an important book. It hits all the crucial points about grooming and the inner thoughts of the victim. -- Sue Atkinson, author of Climbing out of Depression This book is beautifully written but shocking and tragic in content. It is difficult to read and it is very difficult not to break down when reading it. This story... will remain with me for a very long time. -- Baroness Elizabeth Butler-Sloss GBE This book is unique. Written through the eyes of a child, it brings out so clearly the gamut of emotions - delight, confusion, fear - that the child experienced, as well as how she attempted to disassociate herself from all of it. It shows just how devious the "Uncle Georges" are: how their grooming behaviour draws in the child who longs to feel special and loved, to feel grown up. I strongly recommend this emotionally charged and challenging book to anyone who has experienced child abuse and to the many people in all walks of life who are trying to understand the devastating, long-term suffering caused by it. Child counsellors and psychotherapists will find it especially useful. -- Pauline Pearson, Churches' Child Protection Advisory Service This extraordinary book captures the deep emotions without bombarding the reader with sordid details. It has helped me to understand how children and their families can be groomed so effectively by skilled and determined paedophiles; and why and how those who have been hurt in this way can cover the events so deeply and for so long. -- Andrew Billington, Director of the Jack Petchey Foundation I was in a different family in a different country, in a different room with different wallpaper, but I recognize the maze of distortions, collusions and concealments that build into a high security prison. When someone begins to visit her prison with the gift of permission, then healing begins. I was able to get past my own reticence about reading about trauma because Goodbye Pink Room is written with the clarity and incomprehension of a child of God; she held my hand but did not push me. This book gives courage and fuel to all survivors by its powerful message, that it is grace that opens the bolts of a prison." -- An adult survivor, still a victim Powerful, sensitive, moving, honest account of a girl's experience of sexual abuse, this book presents a forthright challenge for anyone working with young people, presenting an alarming reality that cannot be ignored. -- Childrenswork magazine I was hooked from page one and devoured it avidly. I was constantly awed by the restraint with which the author hinted at the depths of Rose's suffering and the blindness of those who should have been protecting and encouraging her. Having been taken inside Rose's head and heart as she learns to dissociate in order to survive, I was grateful for the final chapters with their movement towards a way of living with the totally "un-liveable-with". This is truly an extra-ordinary book - hyphen deliberate.I shall be recommending it to colleagues and clients for many years to come. -- Alison Balaam, Counsellor MA (Cantab), Dip Humanistic Counselling, BACP Accredited Counsellor (2004) This book highlights how parents can actually make a child more vulnerable to grooming and abuse. Parents fail to see the real threat nearer to home. Anyone currently involved with children, or helping adult survivors of abuse, would benefit from reading it. -- Eileen Hurst, Social Worker So well written... a powerful message that I believe the church needs to hear. People who have read Pathway Through Pain know Jane's gift of describing truly and honestly how things really are. -- Angela Newton, Counsellor This book IS extraordinary. Very powerfully written. No wonder it took fourteen years. -- Alison Kidd, MA, PhD This book is a real gift to those of us who were oblivious to what we can now learn through it. I had no idea of the immensity of the horror of abuse until I read this book. I found it intensely moving. It conveyed so much of the agony of it. And there is so much abuse about: people need to know the horror. Although I could hardly bring myself to continue reading it, I could not put it down either. Jane has an extraordinary gift for describing in words the indescribable. ...That little girl with her sincere, eager faith. No wonder adult survivors say that life after abuse is peppered with such internal pain. This book explains why and I've never read such a clear explanation. Rose was paying the cost not twice over, but a lifetime over. This book has brought an inkling of understanding to me in my safe life. Thank you. Thank you. -- Eliza Treasure, an "ordinary" lady in her eighties As a GP I see many people like "Rose": they come to me because they need help. This book is a most remarkable story and achievement. It enables me to understand what's going on inside them; how experiences might have felt for the child, and how they still feel for the grown-up. And the big questions: Where was God when it happened? Where is He now? Jane addresses them without any flimflam. It ends so very honestly and powerfully. It's a truly amazing book. -- Dr Jenny Durandt, General Practitioner This is one of the most important books published in the last thirty years. The writer has disappeared, leaving the child to speak so clearly and naturally with precision and power and the beauty of devastating simplicity. -- Right Reverend Donald Allister, Bishop of Peterborough This is essential reading for all those who don't "get it". -- Elizabeth Hall, National Safeguarding Officer for the Church of England & Methodist Churchshow more

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