Fair Play

Fair Play : Share the mental load, rebalance your relationship and transform your life

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"A hands-on, real talk guide for navigating the hot-button issues that so many families struggle with" - Reese Witherspoon

Do you find yourself taking on the lion's share of all the thankless, invisible but time-consuming work in the home? FAIR PLAY is the first book that shows you that there can be a different way: a way to get more done, with less fuss, in a way that feels more balanced.

Eve Rodsky is changing society one relationship at a time, by coming up with a 21st-century solution to an age-old problem: women shouldering the brunt of domestic responsibilities, the mental load, the emotional labour. Everything that is required to keep the fridge full, the children's homework in their bags, and the household running. The unequal division of all this invisible work in relationships is a recipe for disaster, but no one has offered a real solution to this dilemma, until now.

Eve Rodsky was tired of always being the one who has to remember to buy loo roll, or to book the family's dentist appointments, or to send the thank you cards - all while working full time. So Eve decided to do what she does every day as an organisational management consultant: Organise. She conducted original research with more than 500 couples to figure out WHAT the invisible work in a family actually is and HOW to get it done effectively and all in a way that makes relationships even stronger. FAIR PLAY identifies the 100 main tasks in any relationship, and then divides those tasks fairly (not necessarily equally) so that both parties contribute their fair share.

If we don't learn to rebalance our home life and reclaim some time to develop the skills and passions that keep us unique, then we risk losing our right to be interesting, not just to our partner, but to ourselves. Getting this right isn't a luxury, it's a necessity for a happy, lasting partnership. Part how-to guide for couples, part modern relationship manifesto, FAIR PLAY offers an innovative system with a completely original lexicon to discuss how relationships actually work ... and how we can make them work better.
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Product details

  • Paperback | 352 pages
  • 134 x 214 x 36mm | 340g
  • London, United Kingdom
  • English
  • 1529400198
  • 9781529400199
  • 37,155

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"Watch out for Eve Rodsky. Reese Witherspoon's media company, Hello Sunshine, has anointed her as the Marie Kondo of relationships, and we think they might be on to something * BookPage * [An] impressive debut. . . Couples searching for ways to better manage their families and achieve a balance of domestic work will benefit from Rodsky's actionable strategy * Publisher's Weekly * If your family is struggling to achieve a
happy division of household labor, read this
book. Fair Play offers practical tools for
maximizing peace and minimizing resentment-
while freeing up all parties to pursue. -- Laura Vanderkam, author of I Know How She Does It and Juliet's School of Possibilities Fair Play is what every busy parent needs to
shed resentment, move beyond blame, and
reconnect with each other. By easing the
home burdens and working collaboratively,
parents will fi nd the key to a happier marriage
and more family joy. -- Tovah Klein, PhD, author of How Toddlers Thrive There are three 'people' in every busy relationship:
Person A, Person B, and the system
that governs them. When things feel overwhelming,
most people point at themselves
or their partner to explain it, but more often
than not the system itself is the problem.
This is brilliantly illustrated in Fair Play,
where Eve Rodsky makes the existing system
visible and provides a clear path to build
a new one that enables readers to focus on
what their family values most. -- Greg McKeown, author of Essentialism Fair Play gives us permission to create our
own values that introduce equity into our
households. Imagine what could be different
about you, your relationships, and the world,
if we collectively decided to play fair. -- Alexis Jemal, JD, LCSW, PhD, assistant professor, Silberman School of Social Work, Hunter College Fair Play is a game-changing guide to reclaiming
more time in our lives by dividing
domestic work in a deceptively simple new
way. This system of dealing virtual 'cards' to
share the work it takes to run a household is
revolutionary and can help you succeed and
truly thrive in all aspects of your life! -- Arianna Huffington, founder and CEO Thrive Global I'm so impressed with the Fair Play handbook.
Not only did Eve break down every task
that a couple is responsible for, but she managed
to create a system where dividing those
tasks is fun, insightful, and gratifying. Her
approach is filled with love, humor, wisdom,
and the idea that if we can work together
and acknowledge each other's strengths and
weaknesses, we can build better, stronger,
and longer-lasting relationships. -- Reese Witherspoon
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About Eve Rodsky

Eve Rodsky received her B.A. in economics and anthropology
from the University of Michigan, and her J.D. from Harvard Law School. After
working in foundation management at J.P. Morgan, she founded the
Philanthropy Advisory Group to advise families and charitable foundations on
best practices for their work. She created the Fair Play system in response to
her own need to juggle work and family life, when she realized that she could
apply her expertise in family mediation, strategy, and organizational
management to a problem closer to home. Over the last decade, she has tested
Fair Play with more than 500 families all around the US and the world. Rodsky
was born and raised by a single mum in New York City and now lives in Los
Angeles with her husband and their three children. Fair Play is her first book.
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