Enlightened Sex Manual

Enlightened Sex Manual : Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover

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The secret to enlightenment and great sex is revealed to be one and the same in this groundbreaking manual for adventurous lovers. David Deida was trained for decades in the art of spiritual and sexual awakening. Now he presents the ultimate collection of skills for opening to the physical, emotional, and spiritual rewards of intimate embrace. In paperback for the first time, The Enlightened Sex Manual teaches you how to transform simple "skin friction" into the depths and embodiment of ecstasy, how to develop sexual abilities as gifts of heart rapture and bodily surrender, how to achieve the principal types of orgasm-and all their varieties-and much more.

For men and women, singles and couples of every sexual orientation, The Enlightened Sex Manual provides a complete program for sustaining "whole-body recognition of love's light" in the wild play of sexuality.


Part One: Energy
Use your breath to arouse and relax your genitalsRestrain your nervous systemUse your tongue like a circuit breakerUse your eyes to direct energyPart Two: Orgasm
Bypass ejaculations for greater pleasureRetrain the addiction to ejaculationCurb fidgetsGood ejaculations liberate energyOptimize ejaculations to maximize life's depthEjaculate when the body needs toUnderstand the three types of women's orgasmsEnjoy clitoral orgasmsDelight in vaginal orgasmsSurrender in the bliss of cervical orgasmsChoose when to orgasmAllow orgasmic variationPart Three: Variations
Stimulate the sex pathsBite, slap, and pinch to move sexual energyMove energy through the lips, nipples, and genitalsStimulate the anusDo the feetThrust both deep and shallowConnect the cervix and penisVibrate quickly to increase and smooth out energyRelax your body and breathMake love for at least forty-five minutes
Part Four: Sexual Energy Exercises
Breathe sexual energy in a circleBreathe genital energy upBreathe energy down the frontSeal your pelvic floorLock energy in your soft parts


"David Deida explains the heart and soul of women to men. As a woman, I've never felt so understood and validated. David's work is a key to helping men and women alike take their relationships one step further. Finally, a clear and brilliant guide to unraveling the mystery of relationships."
Marci Shimoff, Co-author of Chicken Soup for a Woman's Soul

"Being able to reach and live integrated sex, relationship, and transcendence is no easy task. It requires immense courage, wisdom, and above all, fearless loving. In Deida, all this gets included in one radical teaching. You'll learn how to open your heart and integrate the need to sleep with every attractive woman you see, deal appropriately with a woman's emotional chaos, give your gift to the word and lover, and finally transcend the whole lot by including it all."
Vijay Rana, The Watkins Review

"Deida brilliantly lays bare the hidden psychology of feminine and masculine and offers clear instructions for tapping into our deepest core and achieving true harmony through sexual intimacy. I feel that Deida has reached a new level of poetic genius in his writing, and his understanding of feminine psychology astounds me."
Miranda Shaw, PhD, Author of Passionate Enlightenment: Women in Tantric Buddhism

"David Deida's teachings on this central human concern, sexuality, emanate from a deeply trustworthy source. He has undergone his own rigorous training and practice, which manifests in precise, gentle, and thorough teachings. Many spiritual traditions, including Zen, have excluded or marginalized the sexual experience. David's work fills this gap, and gives us a mature approach for bringing the energetic, emotional, and physical experience of sex into our life and practice. And like Zen, the fruition of David's work is openness, compassion, and love."
Genpo Roshi, Author of The Eye Never Sleeps
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Product details

  • Paperback | 200 pages
  • 132.08 x 213.36 x 12.7mm | 249.47g
  • Louisville, CO, United States
  • English
  • 1591795850
  • 9781591795858
  • 14,225

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"In the area of sacred intimacy, David Deida is holding a lightning bolt. He sheds an astonishing light."
--Marianne Williamson, author of A Return to Love

"David Deida's work is on the forefront of 21st-century conscious sexual love. I recommend this book with confidence."
--Charles Muir, author of Tantra: The Art of Conscious Loving

"What a treasure! I want to give this book to everyone I know!"
--Jenny Wade, Ph.D., author of Transcendent Sex
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About David Deida

David Deida
Acknowledged as one of the most insightful and provocative teachers of our time, bestselling author David Deida continues to revolutionize the way that men and women grow spiritually and sexually. His ten books are published in more than twenty-five languages worldwide and are required reading in university, church, and spiritual center courses. His workshops on a radically practical spirituality have been hailed as among the most original and authentic contributions to the field of self-development currently available. He is a founding member of Integral Institute, and has taught and conducted research at the University of California-San Diego School of Medicine, University of California-Santa Cruz, San Jose State University, Lexington Institute in Boston, and Ecole Polytechnique in Paris, France. Some of his recent books include Blue Truth, The Enlightened Sex Manual, The Way of the Superior Man, and Instant Enlightenment.
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