The Enabler

The Enabler : When Helping Hurts the Ones You Love

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Co-dependency-of which enabling is a major element-can and does exist in families where there is no chemical dependency. Angelyn Miller's own experience is a dramatic example: neither she nor her husband drank, yet her family was floundering in that same dynamic. In spite of her best efforts to fix everything (and everyone), the turmoil continued until she discovered that helping wasn't helping. Miller recounts how she learned to alter the way she responded to family crises and general neediness, forever breaking the cycle of co-dependency. Offering insights, practical techniques, and hope, she shows us how we can transform enabling relationships into healthy more

Product details

  • Hardback | 120 pages
  • 142.24 x 218.44 x 17.78mm | 340.19g
  • Wheatmark
  • United States
  • English
  • black & white illustrations
  • 1587369052
  • 9781587369056
  • 2,430,129

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"This is a challenging book. . . . an outstanding testimonial to the benefits that are possible when you recognize that you are an enabler and are willing to take steps to change your behavior. Read it, share it with your family and friends, and put it to good use." -- Jennifer P. Schneider, Author of Back from Betrayalshow more

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