Duels and Duets

Duels and Duets : Why Men and Women Talk So Differently

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Why do men and women talk so differently? And how do these differences interfere with communication between the sexes? In search of an answer to these and other questions, John Locke takes the reader on a fascinating journey, from human evolution through ancient history to the present, revealing why men speak as they do when attempting to impress or seduce women, and why women adopt a very different way of talking when bonding with each other, or discussing rivals. When men talk to men, Locke argues, they frequently engage in a type of 'dueling', locking verbal horns with their rivals in a way that enables them to compete for the things they need, mainly status and sex. By contrast, much of women's talk sounds more like a verbal 'duet', a harmonious way of achieving their goals by sharing intimate thoughts and feelings in private.show more

Product details

  • Electronic book text | 256 pages
  • Cambridge University Press (Virtual Publishing)
  • Cambridge, United Kingdom
  • English
  • 6 b/w illus.
  • 1139118560
  • 9781139118569

Table of contents

1. Speech, sex, and gender; 2. Duels; 3. Bards, heroes, Romeos, and clowns; 4. Why do men duel?; 5. Duets; 6. Complicity; 7. Why do women duet?; 8. Collaboration in language and in life.show more

Review quote

'... an intriguing journey down the often uneven cobblestone road that is communication between the sexes ... It certainly merits space on the bookshelf of anyone interested in how men and women contrast and compliment each other on the verbal landscape.' Richard G. Bribiescas, Yale University 'Accessible and entertaining, speech expert John Locke's book explores a provocative hypothesis: that well-known differences in men and women's speech patterns have a deep-rooted biological basis, related to sex differences in evolved mating strategies and preferences. Duels and Duets is sure to be controversial, but is so packed with intriguing facts and wry historical observations that it cannot be ignored.' W. Tecumseh Fitch, University of Vienna 'An exhilarating race through some of the issues closest to our hearts - why we speak and tell stories, and how there come to be sex differences in style.' Robin Dunbar, University of Oxford 'The physicist Ernest Rutherford supposedly commented that all science was 'either physics or stamp collecting'. If that is true, then John Locke's book represents a rejection of stamp collecting and an embrace of physics, as applied to questions about the history of human language. He uses data on sex and gender differences in language use to formulate a theory about the origins of language in the biological challenges faced by males and females during the period that language, and humanness itself, emerged. In the process, though, he also collects and conveys an engaging and wide-ranging array of facts and stories about language, from biologists, archeologists, anthropologists, historians, and linguists, ensuring his reader has the aesthetic experience of the stamp collector together with the intellectual experience of the physicist.' Catherine Snow, Patricia Albjerg Graham Professor of Education, Harvard Graduate School of Education 'With the lightest of touches underpinned by enormous scholarship this book will nudge those few remaining diehards into taking seriously biologically based sex-differences in language.' Tom Dickins, University of East London 'Locke is a true Renaissance man, weaving disparate sources of evidence into a brilliant, pithy, and thoroughly thought-provoking pageturner.' Anne van Kleeck, University of Texas, Dallas 'Showing his usual delinquency with respect to disciplinary boundaries, Locke provides an illuminating synthesis and extension of a fragmented literature.' David Good, University of Cambridge 'Locke is to be applauded for asking why so many men and women speak (and write and IM) differently from one another.' The New Scientist '... a fascinating read. Chock-full of snippets of bizarre facts and, as one reviewer put it 'wry historical observation'. Not so much one for the self-help brigade as a must-have addition to the QI bookshelf!' The Bookbag 'You'll learn why men speak as they do when trying to pull a girl and how women adopt a different tone when talking to each other ... An interesting viewpoint.' The Sunshow more

About John L. Locke

John L. Locke is currently Professor of Linguistics at Lehman College, City University of New York. His articles have appeared in a broad range of journals, including the Journal of the Royal Anthropological Institute, Evolution and Human Behavior, Behavioral and Brain Sciences and Language Sciences. He has published over a hundred articles, chapters and books. His books include The De-Voicing of Society (1998) and Eavesdropping: An Intimate History (2010).show more

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