Decorum; A Practical Treatise on Etiquette and Dress of the Best American Society

Decorum; A Practical Treatise on Etiquette and Dress of the Best American Society

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This historic book may have numerous typos and missing text. Purchasers can download a free scanned copy of the original book (without typos) from the publisher. Not indexed. Not illustrated. 1878 edition. Excerpt: ...his preference gratifies and his conversation interests you; that you are flattered by the attentions of a man whom some of your companions admire; and that, in truth, you hardly know your own mind on the subject. This will not excuse you. Every young woman ought to know the state of her own heart; and yet the happiness and future prospects of many an excellent man have been sacrificed by such unprincipled conduct. A Poor Triumph. It is a poor triumph for a young lady to say, or to feel, that she has refused five, ten, or twenty offers of marriage; it is about the same as acknowledging herself a trifler and coquette, who, from motives of personal vanity, tempts and induces hopes and expectations which she has predetermined shall be disappointed. Such a course is, to a certain degree, both unprincipled and immodest. A Still Greater Crime. It is a still greater crime when a man conveys the impression that he is in love, by actions, gallantries, looks, attentions, all--except that he never commits himself--and finally withdraws his devotions, exulting in the thought that he has said or written nothing which can legally bind him. The Rejected Lover. Remember that if a gentleman makes a lady an offer, she has no right to speak of it. If she possess either generosity or gratitude for offered affection, she will not betray a secret which does not belong to her. It is sufficiently painful to be refused, without incurring the additional mortification of being pointed out as a rejected lover. Duty Of A Rejected Suitor. The duty of the rejected suitor is quite clear. Etiquette demands that he shall accept the lady's decision as final and retire from the field. He has no right to demand the reason of her refusal. If she assign it, he is bound to respect more

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  • Paperback | 72 pages
  • 189 x 246 x 4mm | 145g
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  • English
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  • 9781236674883