Change : What Really Leads to Lasting Personal Transformation

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Change is often a mystery, one that baffles doctors, therapists, teachers, coaches, parents-and especially those of us who struggle to alter bad habits or simply make lasting improvements in our lives. Why do we suddenly change for the better after years of failed efforts? Why do some of us never escape our self-destructive behaviors, even when we desperately want to? What is it that most reliably and effectively produces growth, learning and development that persist
over time?

In this vividly written volume, psychotherapist Jeffrey Kottler weaves together inspiring stories and the latest research, taking the reader on a fascinating exploration of human behavior while highlighting what does-and does not-lead to lasting change. Kottler illuminates our many efforts to change-to stop taking drugs, reduce dependencies, leave a destructive relationship, find new and more meaningful work, or adjust to a devastating accident or trauma. Readers are invited to explore key
triggers such as hitting bottom, moments of clarity, the power of altruism and service, travel to new surroundings, reading or listening to stories, religious conversion, and much more. Kottler also explores why most changes don't last and what we can do to prevent relapses.

Throughout the book, Kottler recounts stories of colleagues and patients-and even recalls episodes from his own life-often moving tales of remarkable, unexpected, and lasting transformation. He looks for instance at a young black basketball star, confined to a wheelchair for life after being shot four times, who turned his life around, becoming a scholar and a PhD.

An intriguing glimpse into the complexity of the human psyche, Change will engage anyone who has ever struggled to alter a habit, enrich relationships, recover from disappointment or failure, strive for more meaningful and productive work, deal with anxiety, loneliness, fears, stress, and depression, or transform their lives in any kind of significant way.
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Product details

  • Hardback | 376 pages
  • 162 x 237 x 25mm | 664g
  • New York, United States
  • English
  • black & white illustrations, black & white tables, figures
  • 0199981388
  • 9780199981380
  • 632,060

Table of contents

1 The Mystery of Change ; 2 What Works and What Doesn't ; 3 The Process of Change ; 4 The Power of Stories ; 5 The Benefits of Hitting Bottom ; 6 Growth through Trauma ; 7 Changing in Therapy ; 8 Transformative Travel and Spiritual Journeys ; 9 Between Truth and Lies: Deceiving Yourself and Others ; 10 Moments of Clarity: Insights & Breakthroughs Talking to Yourself ; 11 Facing Fears and Managing Stress ; 12 Creating Meaning and Happiness ; 13 Changing People's Lives While Transforming Your Won ; 14 Resolving Conflicts in Relationships ; 15 Why Whatever You Learned Might Not Last
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I was pretty impressed with this book. ... this is an extremely comprehensive work on many aspects of transformation, aiming to show how life changes can be made in many areas of behaviour and environment. It is wonderfully enhanced by a multiplicity of inspirational examples both from Kottler's personal experience (including, for instance, a very touching reference to the death of his mother) and from the hundreds of people he has interviewed and treated within a
wide variety of backgrounds. * Terry Goodwin, New Nurturing Potential *
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About Jeffrey A. Kottler

Jeffrey A. Kottler is one of the foremost authorities and prolific writers in the fields of counseling, psychology, and education. He is the best-selling author of more than 80 nonfiction books that deal with a wide range of subjects, including a variety of contemporary issues related to helping and healing, truth and lies, creativity, transformative travel, and stress management. He is Professor of Counseling at California State University,
Fullerton, and President of Empower Nepali Girls, an organization that provides scholarships for at-risk children in Nepal.
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