No one enters a relationship with someone hoping to find hurt, harm and violence. But, sadly and tragically, it happens. Although there are some obvious red flags and warnings, it is easy to be duped by an "external package" that appears to be good. Perpetrators of domestic violence have no particular "face" that represents a race, a definitive gender, cultural heritage, religious preference or general belief system. The objective that is most frightening is that as we are navigating the "partnering selection process," we are all so very vulnerable as we - those of a genuine, kind and caring nature - want to believe that most of the people we encounter are similar in this way. We want so much, in our judgments, to see and believe the best in people. In this book, "Bigger than me," you will find stories, poems and personal testaments - even some success stories - from the lives of survivors, victims and secondary victims - women, a dad and a even the mother of victims of abuse. This collection is built with stories that are true - as told and shared with K. Tim Einfeldt, a family therapist that works primarily with these domestic violence situations. No one should feel "small" and diminished as a result of another's perception that they are "Big." Help, support and the valued validation of abuse are offered here and related so as to speak to any reader. The stories are shared in such a way that no uncomfortable words or scenarios are depicted so that anyone can read and learn from these experiences.