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    DescriptionMost parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need -- and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that question are ideas for working "with" children rather than doing things "to" them. One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send. More than just another book about discipline, though, "Unconditional Parenting" addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting -- including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.


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    Title
    Unconditional Parenting
    Subtitle
    Moving from Rewards and Punishments to Love and Reason
    Authors and contributors
    By (author) Alfie Kohn
    Physical properties
    Format: Paperback
    Number of pages: 272
    Width: 140 mm
    Height: 211 mm
    Thickness: 20 mm
    Weight: 227 g
    Language
    English
    ISBN
    ISBN 13: 9780743487481
    ISBN 10: 0743487486
    Classifications

    B&T Merchandise Category: GEN
    B&T Book Type: NF
    LC subject heading:
    BIC E4L: CHI
    Nielsen BookScan Product Class 3: T9.3
    B&T Modifier: Academic Level: 05
    BIC subject category V2: VFXC
    LC subject heading:
    Ingram Subject Code: CF
    Ingram Theme: TOPC/FAMILY
    Libri: I-CF
    Warengruppen-Systematik des deutschen Buchhandels: 27210
    LC subject heading:
    DC22: 649.1
    B&T Approval Code: A31503241
    BISAC V2.8: FAM034000
    B&T General Subject: 200
    B&T Modifier: Subject Development: 09
    LC subject heading:
    DC22: 649/.1
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    LC classification: HQ755.8 .K65 2006
    Thema V1.0: VFXC
    Publisher
    Atria Books
    Imprint name
    Atria Books
    Publication date
    06 April 2006
    Publication City/Country
    New York
    Review quote
    "Powerful alternatives to help children become their most caring, responsible selves." -- Adele Faber, coauthor of "How to Talk So Kids Will Listen . . ."