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    DescriptionSomehow, a set of deeply conservative assumptions about children--what they're like and how they should be raised--have congealed into the conventional wisdom in our society. Parents are accused of being both permissive and overprotective, unwilling to set limits and afraid to let their kids fail. Young people, meanwhile, are routinely described as entitled and narcissistic...among other unflattering adjectives. In The Myth of the Spoiled Child, Alfie Kohn systematically debunks these beliefs--not only challenging erroneous factual claims but also exposing the troubling ideology that underlies them. Complaints about pushover parents and coddled kids are hardly new, he shows, and there is no evidence that either phenomenon is especially widespread today--let alone more common than in previous generations. Moreover, new research reveals that helicopter parenting is quite rare and, surprisingly, may do more good than harm when it does occur. The major threat to healthy child development, John argues, is posed by parenting that is too controlling rather than too indulgent. With the same lively, contrarian style that marked his influential books about rewards, competition, and education, Kohn relies on a vast collection of social science data, as well as on logic and humor, to challenge assertions that appear with numbing regularity in the popular press. These include claims that young people suffer from inflated self-esteem; that they receive trophies, praise, and As too easily; and that they would benefit from more self-discipline and "grit." These conservative beliefs are often accepted without question, even by people who are politically liberal. Kohn's invitation to reexamine our assumptions is particularly timely, then; his book has the potential to change our culture's conversation about kids and the people who raise them.


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    Title
    The Myth of the Spoiled Child
    Subtitle
    Challenging the Conventional Wisdom about Children and Parenting
    Authors and contributors
    By (author) Alfie Kohn
    Physical properties
    Format: Hardback
    Number of pages: 280
    Width: 154 mm
    Height: 232 mm
    Thickness: 28 mm
    Weight: 460 g
    Language
    English
    ISBN
    ISBN 13: 9780738217246
    ISBN 10: 0738217247
    Classifications

    B&T Merchandise Category: GEN
    B&T Book Type: NF
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    BIC E4L: CHI
    Nielsen BookScan Product Class 3: T9.3
    B&T Modifier: Academic Level: 05
    BIC subject category V2: VFXC
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    Ingram Theme: TOPC/FAMILY
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    Warengruppen-Systematik des deutschen Buchhandels: 17210
    B&T Approval Code: A31503241
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    LC classification: HQ769 .K564 2014
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    Publisher
    The Perseus Books Group
    Imprint name
    Da Capo Lifelong
    Publication date
    27 March 2014
    Publication City/Country
    Camnridge, US
    Author Information
    Alfie Kohn is the author of twelve previous books--including The Homework Myth, Unconditional Parenting, and Punished by Rewards--and hundreds of articles. His work has helped to shape the thinking of parents, educators, and social scientists throughout the world. A popular lecturer, he lives (actually) in the Boston area and (virtually) at alfiekohn.org.
    Review quote
    "A wise and passionate book--by one of the best friends our children have today--that is also a delight to read."--Jonathan Kozol, author of Fire in the Ashes "Splendid...Kohn's analysis is incisive, witty, and fun to read. In a manner that reminds me of Voltaire, Kohn brings clear and profound social criticism to a topic of great contemporary importance."--William Crain, author of Reclaiming Childhood "An insightful, well-informed, thorough analysis of the many false and hostile claims made about parents and children today. Kohn patiently dismantles myths about 'helicopter parenting,' every kid getting a trophy in every endeavor, and parents allegedly inflating their kids' self-esteem, and shows the myths to be not just without merit but destructive. Then he goes beyond the critique to provide a positive vision of parenting for our time, 'working with' kids rather than 'doing to' them. It's a vision that should be heeded."--Jeffrey Jensen Arnett, coauthor of When Will My Grown-Up Kid Grow Up? Kirkus Reviews, 4/1/14 "Kohn attacks the status quo on child-rearing and parenting...Via research and interviews, Kohn closely examines the current media-backed perceptions of permissive and controlling parenting and contrasts them with actual data, deflating popular beliefs that children are now more spoiled and unruly than ever...A thought-provoking, semicontroversial scrutiny of modern parenting practices." Calgary Herald, 3/3/14 "[Kohn] tackles many modern parenting assumptions head-on in his latest book." Boston Globe, 3/30/14 "With his trademark blend of skepticism and idealism, [Kohn] dismantles most of the hype surrounding motivation and competition, failure and success." TabletMag.com, 4/3/2014 "The best parts of Kohn's book are in the breathing spaces between the bouts of contrariness--the acknowledgment that it's vital to pay attention to your kids' desires and interests, that depending on 'grit' as the answer to all social ills is wrongheaded...that we should encourage kids to develop 'thoughtful skepticism, a reflective rebelliousness, a selective defiance based on principle' rather than simple rules-following." The Metro, 4/15/14 "The heart of Kohn's philosophy all comes down to unconditional love. Whether you agree or disagree with his parenting methods, that's something everyone can get behind." Atlanta Journal-Constitution, 4/30/14 "Kohn picks apart the script that today's kids are coddled and lazy--complaints every generation makes about the succeeding one." Huffington Post, 5/7/14 "[An] important new book... [Kohn] debunks many decades of nonsense about undisciplined, entitled, lazy, selfish, needy children who are the products of permissive parenting and schooling, rooted in the misguided progressivism of the 60's and 70's. His research is comprehensive, his logic compelling, and his prose accessible and witty...The importance of Kohn's treatise cannot be overestimated." IntentionalMama.com, 5/6/14 "If you're well-versed in current parenting and education discourse, you know that Alfie Kohn is America's gadfly on these topics, consistently challenging the popular views with solid evidence to the contrary...The Myth of the Spoiled Child is a point-by-point response to the common but baseless social criticism of modern American parents and their children...[Kohn is] highly convincing as he meticulously discredits prevalent assumptions about falling school standards, pervasive narcissism, and the overly touted benefits of self-discipline and failure." Hudson Valley News, 5/14/14 "This book will calm your fears and help you to feel good about your own methodology of parenting." Portland Book Review, 5/21/14 "Kohn dispels the notion that we're raising our kids 'wrong'...[A] well-researched book...This is not a how-to parenting book, but will certainly provide insight into raising good world citizens." Bookviews, June 2014 "One hears so much about today's kids being spoiled that it was enlightening and pleasurable to read a book that says it's just not true...For the parent who needs a bit of advice, this book will prove helpful." New York Times Book Review, 6/15/14 "Filled with surprising insights and counterintuitive data...An energetic...argument against all the columnists, politicians and pundits who insist children today are spoiled."